"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met this girl the other week. Decided to call her last night to make plans for Friday. Got her machine so I didn't bother to leave a message. Wanted to check in here before I called again. If I call tonight and get her machine, should I leave a message? If so, what should I say? Should I be funny or just be to the point? Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just call back later at a time where she's more likely to be home. For intial phone contact, when you're just setting up a date, avoid talking too much. Maybe make her laugh once or something, but keep it brief, this maximizes the amount of conversation available for the first date.

Good luck.
 
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OK, but how do I rush her off the phone if she wants to get into conversation? I've got some problems cutting it short. Sometimes she wants to talk and talk some more. Any suggestions for getting on and off without getting stuck in conversation?
 
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Originally posted by mecca411
OK, but how do I rush her off the phone if she wants to get into conversation? I've got some problems cutting it short. Sometimes she wants to talk and talk some more. Any suggestions for getting on and off without getting stuck in conversation?
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State the obvious!

"Hey, I'd love to small chat but I gotta run. What are you doing this <insert day> ? " , then set up a date and go from there.
 
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Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
State the obvious!

"Hey, I'd love to small chat but I gotta run. What are you doing this <insert day> ? " , then set up a date and go from there.
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That's good, or if you had already asked just say "Hey, a call is coming in that I'm expecting [call waiting], catch you later." click...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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