"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Guide to Negs
- Thread starter saber101
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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(backhanded compliment)
Plec07
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The second also lets her notice that you are interested in more than just her looks. Making you differ from other guys.
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Thats playing with firemr_elor said:yeah, a favouite of mine when they say the obligotary "I'm so fat" routine is to say:
"Well I didn't want to say. [arm round her] Fortunately for you I like big girls"
Jack-Torrance
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LOL that's real good haha I can imagine their reaction nowmr_elor said:yeah, a favouite of mine when they say the obligotary "I'm so fat" routine is to say:
"Well I didn't want to say. [arm round her] Fortunately for you I like big girls
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plec07
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Jack-Torrance
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One in my personal arsenal >
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There was this girl which i talked to for abit. I went over to her tent (it was a school trip) and i felt like negging. Her last name is "Zoro" so i said :"You know, my dogs name is Zoro [pause]. He died".
She gave me a couple of intrsted looks after that.
I only neg Super *****es or girls which can take jokes. Low self-esteem girls are a big nono for negs.
The Shocker
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.