"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Greying Hairy Chest - good or bad look?

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I’m 54 and I have a greying hairy chest. I did dye it with beard dye when going on beach holidays, but the grey / white area is getting larger now and more difficult to cover up.
When wearing medium cut T-shirts there is an area of white hair on show.

Is this a good or bad look for a guy of my age and should I do anything about it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desperation is a bit strong. There is a big market for hair & beard dye.

I dyed it when it was a small patch pre covid, now it’s larger and when on a beach holiday this year I never bothered dyeing it.
 

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You'd be amazed how many men use botox, hair dyes etc. I didn't realize it until I became a close friend with a successful aesthetician - we'll sit and have a beer sometimes and he will point out men who've had this or that done, this is in a top-5 in the US zip code so it's kind of rampant. I don't really look at men much so I'd never really analyzed why a guy who is in his 60's has a head full of dark brown hair with no grays...
 

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Greying Hairy Chest - good or bad look?

If you give a crap about it - bad

If you don't give a crap about it - good
 

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one of my ex-s who was 28 liked it. She said it was ‘gruff sexy’. Otherwise I’ve had no comments. Pro or con.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That is one of my top 5 most disliked songs

As I’m bald / shaven headed I was told a few times in the past that I looked like Right Said Fred.
Didn’t know how to take that one!
 

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You'd be amazed how many men use botox, hair dyes etc. I didn't realize it until I became a close friend with a successful aesthetician - we'll sit and have a beer sometimes and he will point out men who've had this or that done, this is in a top-5 in the US zip code so it's kind of rampant. I don't really look at men much so I'd never really analyzed why a guy who is in his 60's has a head full of dark brown hair with no grays...
I noticed that Trump and some of the men surrounding him look like they have had work done on them.

Most notable was Rudy Gulliani and his hair dye running down the side of his sweating face as he was giving a press conference!
 

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I shave the upper half of my body. Some might like it but more will be turned off by it whereas the ones that like it aren't turned off by a smooth body.
 

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I shave the upper half of my body. Some might like it but more will be turned off by it whereas the ones that like it aren't turned off by a smooth body.
Is shaving high maintenance and how often do you shave it?
Is it prickly or itchy as it starts to grow back?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Is shaving high maintenance and how often do you shave it?
Is it prickly or itchy as it starts to grow back?
Maybe once every 3 weeks. Probably takes like 15 mins.

It's not too bad, it can be a little prickly for a few days but then it's fine
 

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I would say just shave it... kudos to you my friend at 54 and still caring.
 

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Rock the greys imho. You can't get that color naturally.
 

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That is one of my top 5 most disliked songs

As I’m bald / shaven headed I was told a few times in the past that I looked like Right Said Fred.
Didn’t know how to take that one!
LMAO
 

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I’m 54 and I have a greying hairy chest. I did dye it with beard dye when going on beach holidays, but the grey / white area is getting larger now and more difficult to cover up.
When wearing medium cut T-shirts there is an area of white hair on show.

Is this a good or bad look for a guy of my age and should I do anything about it?
I finally embraced it this winter. Decided idgaf. Grew out my facial hair which is more salt than pepper. Got more unsolicited compliments than I ever expected. And largely from the 20 y.o.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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