"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Great Site on Self Esteem

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I found a great site about self esteem and it really gets to the core of alot of issues that I think DJ's Should deal with, or fix their inner game.

When you fix your inner issues then you dont have to fight anxiety and fear and nervousness.

Its like reaching a state of naturalness but it takes alot of personal growth and painful experiences to get there.

I am still trying to reach that place.

http://www.tir.org/metapsy/jom/083_esteem.html
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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While this is enlightening, some of you guys amaze me. Last Man Standing told me that, "John, most of the guys here are introverts, and the stuff that you tell them they can't follow because they have different personalities."

I'm starting to believe him.

Self Esteem, you want my definition of it? Well, just break it apart, "Self" and "Esteem." It's to raise up the self, to praise the self. Lol.

Some people have "low self esteem" because instead of praising the self they condem the self.

Some people have no self esteem.

Anyway, while you read on how to increase your "SElf" "Esteem" may I ask you a question?

When was the last time you learned more about your SELF?

Who are you?

Do you know?

See, you don't discover who you are from reading articles and books. You discover who you are by being alone with your soul, the articles and books are nothing but additional re-affirming and nurturing information to help bring the guidance and goals of your soul to pass.

You guys do it backwards.

You want articles and books to determine WHAT YOUR ROUTE IS.

However, THEY CAN'T DO THAT. They are only supplements, they are NOT the diet and the workout. Many want to pop a pill and look like Arnold (the young one).

You guys need to discover yourselves, and it's not this hard and long process and bullshyt. What planet are you guys living on?

Get alone in a room with yourself and discover your goals and what you want in life man, god damn.

Then use articles and books to become a support to it. I said the other night that WISDOM brings you success. However, you have to first know where you want to go, in order to seek out the "article" or "book" that contains the wisdom needed to get there.

You guys have no sense of self. No definiton that YOU DEFINED of yourself. You want Pook to create your identity. You come here and ask questions like, "What career should I choose?" "What should I say to this girl?" I mean god damn man! If you can't make up YOUR OWN MIND and create YOUR OWN IDENTITY, then just get the fvck off this site right now.

Get the fvck off and go lock yourself in a room. And don't come out until you have a definition of yourself and a outlook of where YOU want to go in life. Don't bring your red azz on this forum and look for guys to define a way for you.

I'm so sick of that man.
 

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Rather than locking yourself in a room to find yourself, you need to get out and see the world. If you've had the same friends since college or High school get out and meet new people, if you've lived in the same city your whole life move somewhere else. If you never done anything crazy in your life go sky diving! In my opinion, experience is one of the single most important factors in finding yourself and becoming comfortable with who you are.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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John-467 said:
While this is enlightening, some of you guys amaze me. Last Man Standing told me that, "John, most of the guys here are introverts, and the stuff that you tell them they can't follow because they have different personalities."

I'm starting to believe him.

Self Esteem, you want my definition of it? Well, just break it apart, "Self" and "Esteem." It's to raise up the self, to praise the self. Lol.

Some people have "low self esteem" because instead of praising the self they condem the self.

Some people have no self esteem.

Anyway, while you read on how to increase your "SElf" "Esteem" may I ask you a question?

When was the last time you learned more about your SELF?

Who are you?

Do you know?

See, you don't discover who you are from reading articles and books. You discover who you are by being alone with your soul, the articles and books are nothing but additional re-affirming and nurturing information to help bring the guidance and goals of your soul to pass.

You guys do it backwards.

You want articles and books to determine WHAT YOUR ROUTE IS.

However, THEY CAN'T DO THAT. They are only supplements, they are NOT the diet and the workout. Many want to pop a pill and look like Arnold (the young one).

You guys need to discover yourselves, and it's not this hard and long process and bullshyt. What planet are you guys living on?

Get alone in a room with yourself and discover your goals and what you want in life man, god damn.

Then use articles and books to become a support to it. I said the other night that WISDOM brings you success. However, you have to first know where you want to go, in order to seek out the "article" or "book" that contains the wisdom needed to get there.

You guys have no sense of self. No definiton that YOU DEFINED of yourself. You want Pook to create your identity. You come here and ask questions like, "What career should I choose?" "What should I say to this girl?" I mean god damn man! If you can't make up YOUR OWN MIND and create YOUR OWN IDENTITY, then just get the fvck off this site right now.

Get the fvck off and go lock yourself in a room. And don't come out until you have a definition of yourself and a outlook of where YOU want to go in life. Don't bring your red azz on this forum and look for guys to define a way for you.

I'm so sick of that man.
good post

comic_relief
 
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