"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Great Site on Self Esteem

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I found a great site about self esteem and it really gets to the core of alot of issues that I think DJ's Should deal with, or fix their inner game.

When you fix your inner issues then you dont have to fight anxiety and fear and nervousness.

Its like reaching a state of naturalness but it takes alot of personal growth and painful experiences to get there.

I am still trying to reach that place.

http://www.tir.org/metapsy/jom/083_esteem.html
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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While this is enlightening, some of you guys amaze me. Last Man Standing told me that, "John, most of the guys here are introverts, and the stuff that you tell them they can't follow because they have different personalities."

I'm starting to believe him.

Self Esteem, you want my definition of it? Well, just break it apart, "Self" and "Esteem." It's to raise up the self, to praise the self. Lol.

Some people have "low self esteem" because instead of praising the self they condem the self.

Some people have no self esteem.

Anyway, while you read on how to increase your "SElf" "Esteem" may I ask you a question?

When was the last time you learned more about your SELF?

Who are you?

Do you know?

See, you don't discover who you are from reading articles and books. You discover who you are by being alone with your soul, the articles and books are nothing but additional re-affirming and nurturing information to help bring the guidance and goals of your soul to pass.

You guys do it backwards.

You want articles and books to determine WHAT YOUR ROUTE IS.

However, THEY CAN'T DO THAT. They are only supplements, they are NOT the diet and the workout. Many want to pop a pill and look like Arnold (the young one).

You guys need to discover yourselves, and it's not this hard and long process and bullshyt. What planet are you guys living on?

Get alone in a room with yourself and discover your goals and what you want in life man, god damn.

Then use articles and books to become a support to it. I said the other night that WISDOM brings you success. However, you have to first know where you want to go, in order to seek out the "article" or "book" that contains the wisdom needed to get there.

You guys have no sense of self. No definiton that YOU DEFINED of yourself. You want Pook to create your identity. You come here and ask questions like, "What career should I choose?" "What should I say to this girl?" I mean god damn man! If you can't make up YOUR OWN MIND and create YOUR OWN IDENTITY, then just get the fvck off this site right now.

Get the fvck off and go lock yourself in a room. And don't come out until you have a definition of yourself and a outlook of where YOU want to go in life. Don't bring your red azz on this forum and look for guys to define a way for you.

I'm so sick of that man.
 

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Rather than locking yourself in a room to find yourself, you need to get out and see the world. If you've had the same friends since college or High school get out and meet new people, if you've lived in the same city your whole life move somewhere else. If you never done anything crazy in your life go sky diving! In my opinion, experience is one of the single most important factors in finding yourself and becoming comfortable with who you are.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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John-467 said:
While this is enlightening, some of you guys amaze me. Last Man Standing told me that, "John, most of the guys here are introverts, and the stuff that you tell them they can't follow because they have different personalities."

I'm starting to believe him.

Self Esteem, you want my definition of it? Well, just break it apart, "Self" and "Esteem." It's to raise up the self, to praise the self. Lol.

Some people have "low self esteem" because instead of praising the self they condem the self.

Some people have no self esteem.

Anyway, while you read on how to increase your "SElf" "Esteem" may I ask you a question?

When was the last time you learned more about your SELF?

Who are you?

Do you know?

See, you don't discover who you are from reading articles and books. You discover who you are by being alone with your soul, the articles and books are nothing but additional re-affirming and nurturing information to help bring the guidance and goals of your soul to pass.

You guys do it backwards.

You want articles and books to determine WHAT YOUR ROUTE IS.

However, THEY CAN'T DO THAT. They are only supplements, they are NOT the diet and the workout. Many want to pop a pill and look like Arnold (the young one).

You guys need to discover yourselves, and it's not this hard and long process and bullshyt. What planet are you guys living on?

Get alone in a room with yourself and discover your goals and what you want in life man, god damn.

Then use articles and books to become a support to it. I said the other night that WISDOM brings you success. However, you have to first know where you want to go, in order to seek out the "article" or "book" that contains the wisdom needed to get there.

You guys have no sense of self. No definiton that YOU DEFINED of yourself. You want Pook to create your identity. You come here and ask questions like, "What career should I choose?" "What should I say to this girl?" I mean god damn man! If you can't make up YOUR OWN MIND and create YOUR OWN IDENTITY, then just get the fvck off this site right now.

Get the fvck off and go lock yourself in a room. And don't come out until you have a definition of yourself and a outlook of where YOU want to go in life. Don't bring your red azz on this forum and look for guys to define a way for you.

I'm so sick of that man.
good post

comic_relief
 
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