I've been dating my girl for 2 years. Everything has been beautiful. The only issue we have right now is she is very pessimistic about me going to law school as far as she feels my personality is going to change and I won't be the fun loving person I was before I went in..All the people who she knows who went to law school became *******s including her brother....When she tells me these things it has an affect on me to the point where I have doubts about going to law school...Law School has never been a passion for me...I just want to get an advanced degree so I figure why not law plus I'm at a job that I like right now but it doesn't seem like I'm going anywhere...Should I tell her to stop being so pessimistic or what? Give me some understanding on whats going on in her mind?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Desdinova
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All she's doing is relating to experience. She's encountered more than one bad experience with people who have gone to law school.
Look at this way. If every religious chick you've dated was a nutcase, wouldn't you be a little worried if your current non-religious gf decides she's gonna start going to church?
It's the same thing. Situations like this don't just happen to women, it happens to everyone.
Look at this way. If every religious chick you've dated was a nutcase, wouldn't you be a little worried if your current non-religious gf decides she's gonna start going to church?
It's the same thing. Situations like this don't just happen to women, it happens to everyone.
Seriously though... just tell her that you got to know her before law school, and you're not gonna change... even if your outlook at the world will probably change, you're still gonna be the same to her, because you knew her years before you got into it.
Congrats if you can read that. I don't feel like making complete sentences today.
Congrats if you can read that. I don't feel like making complete sentences today.
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I started grad school with a girlfriend of just a few months at the time. We kept it up for a year and half. School did change me though I'm not in Law school so I cant speak for it. It was a huge challenge and I am extremely busy. What was worse was her trying to change me though. The changes from school were positive although stressful. She was just obnoxious, glad it's over and that her attempts failed.
I can tell you though if you aren't passionate it might not be the best choice. But I wouldn't pass up a chance if it is what you want to do and see a better future for yourself then if you hadn't. She might not be there in 10 yrs but a better career can be. Dont let her generalizations worry you either. As much as you guys are in a relationship it is still your life and future. She has no right to be pessimistic about that. Anyways just my two cents
I can tell you though if you aren't passionate it might not be the best choice. But I wouldn't pass up a chance if it is what you want to do and see a better future for yourself then if you hadn't. She might not be there in 10 yrs but a better career can be. Dont let her generalizations worry you either. As much as you guys are in a relationship it is still your life and future. She has no right to be pessimistic about that. Anyways just my two cents
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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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