You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's not that I'm known for ****y it's just thats how my approach comes out when I'm talking with girls. I don't generally act ****y unless I am chatting a girl up.Sir Psycho Sexy said:If you are known as ****y at highschool already then C andF is ruined for you. ****y and funny is for guys who need to display confidence to girls, to show them they think high of themselves.
If everyone at school already knows you think high of yourself then it is counterproductive in every way possible.
The DJ bible probably has some C&F articles, read them
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Wow, is this what people here say to girls? That's terrible.Bladerunner said:Think of it like this:
Every time you say something ****y, follow it up with something funny that builds on your ****y statement.
Example: (after hugging a girl) "Your hugs suck, mine are way better... in fact, my hugs are SO good that they sell them in the ice cream isle at Vons(/local grocery store)"
*girl drops frisbee*afc no more said:Wow, is this what people here say to girls? That's terrible.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.