That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It's not that I'm known for ****y it's just thats how my approach comes out when I'm talking with girls. I don't generally act ****y unless I am chatting a girl up.Sir Psycho Sexy said:If you are known as ****y at highschool already then C andF is ruined for you. ****y and funny is for guys who need to display confidence to girls, to show them they think high of themselves.
If everyone at school already knows you think high of yourself then it is counterproductive in every way possible.
The DJ bible probably has some C&F articles, read them
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wow, is this what people here say to girls? That's terrible.Bladerunner said:Think of it like this:
Every time you say something ****y, follow it up with something funny that builds on your ****y statement.
Example: (after hugging a girl) "Your hugs suck, mine are way better... in fact, my hugs are SO good that they sell them in the ice cream isle at Vons(/local grocery store)"
*girl drops frisbee*afc no more said:Wow, is this what people here say to girls? That's terrible.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.