"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got #, went on date, FB profile says she has BF??

itishe

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Was drunk at a baseball game, and managed to talk it up with a cute asian and her friend in the concession line. I got the Asian girl's number and called her a few days later to set up a date for tea.

Went on date, was fun and I think I did good. She was laughing and had a good time. Did light kino, should of done more but this is what I did. She showed signs of high interest.

Fast forward to today when we finally find each other on facebook. I check out her page and it says, "In a Relationship" but isn't linked to another page so I don't know if she's doing this to stop creepers, or actually has a BF.

She heads back to Japan in about 4-5 weeks so I figure this is definately enough time for me to get a lay in. I'm not sure if she's got a BF back in Japan that she's willing to cheat on or what but I'm a little curious about my next move. If she shoots me down and says she has a BF then she is done obviously.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't worry about it and keep going perhaps?
 

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yeah, just go for the lay, even if you don't succeed you'll have that much more experience under your belt
 

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go for it, what's the worst that can happen? You'll have fun with her before she leaves?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JoeJoe85 said:
Don't trust facebook
yes don't. Who knows, maybe she doesn't update it. One girl I know has on her facebook that she's in a relationship with some guy. But I know for a fact that she's dating someone else and she put that status when they were having a fight a few weeks ago (not sure why, seems kinda childish). So don't trust facebook, with she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to cheat on him she'll tell you as soon as you make a move on her.
 

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itishe said:
Was drunk at a baseball game, and managed to talk it up with a cute asian and her friend in the concession line. I got the Asian girl's number and called her a few days later to set up a date for tea.

Went on date, was fun and I think I did good. She was laughing and had a good time. Did light kino, should of done more but this is what I did. She showed signs of high interest.

Fast forward to today when we finally find each other on facebook. I check out her page and it says, "In a Relationship" but isn't linked to another page so I don't know if she's doing this to stop creepers, or actually has a BF.

She heads back to Japan in about 4-5 weeks so I figure this is definately enough time for me to get a lay in. I'm not sure if she's got a BF back in Japan that she's willing to cheat on or what but I'm a little curious about my next move. If she shoots me down and says she has a BF then she is done obviously.
Didn't you just post the same thread yesterday? Your mentality of "everyone pay attention to me and make me feel important" may be the reason you're having problems with girls.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
Didn't you just post the same thread yesterday? Your mentality of "everyone pay attention to me and make me feel important" may be the reason you're having problems with girls.
Yeah man, I come here asking for advice so that I can beat my chest with pride that I'm going on dates :crazy:

These are new situations for me so let's not give me a hard time? I'll just keep going about my business with her and see if she says anything like you guys recommended.

A movie a good 2nd date?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sent her a text saying I had a great time the other night, we should do it again. She replied, "yep! For sure :)"

She later left this on my FB page:


"i should've studied today but i wasnt productive as u know:pha
anyway if u have a party after finals, please let me know! seriously i wanna join "real american party" before i go back!"

Yeah I think I can bag this one no problem :cheer:
 
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