Dante420
Master Don Juan
Am I the only one who wouldn't go to the police in this situation?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ThatMysteriousGuy said:Dude, it is her fault. You were a pawn in her game. So, actually, it's your fault too for not seeing something was wrong.
When it's too damned easy and fast on a woman's turf, especially when she's that fine, you need to stop and push her back. If she's REALLY interested and not using you for something bad she's up to, her IL will go through the roof and up into the stratosphere. You should do this in general with women who are amped out like she was anyway, she'll be 10x better in bed when she hits resistance.
If she gets really pissed, you need to grab your **** and run. This sort of thing happens all of the time. I always pull eject if I can't get a woman to slow down on her own turf and she gets angry. Either she's mental or it means the **** isn't the central idea, she's getting hot and bothered about getting caught and causing some drama.
I'll also bet that if you think back at what she was doing she was a bit distracted in some ways. Girls like that will have part of the attention on noises going on outside and such because they've already texted the guy they want to piss off "don't come by my house, i've got a date here" to the guy that's going to be kicking your ass with some of his friends to help out.
zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
What makes a difference is if he goes to the police. If he does not and chooses to handle things himself (like I would do), I would first go get a can of pepper spray and a steel pipe and beat the ex-bf to an inch of his life after spraying him so that he can't defend himself, then, text the girl with a picture of him after you smashed his skull in and is about to die and ask her: "so, is this what you wanted?"zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I don't see how court would cost you money. It would be the government's prosecutor trying to convict them, and their defense attorney. Unless you're trying to sue them, you wouldn't need a lawyer at all.rocksoff said:I dont know ...but for some reason id rather just not get the police involved, Police means court , lawyers and pretty much just a bunch of bull**** id rather not go through(Plus i did punch one kid so i could see it getting complicated in court ). These dudes arent like gangbangers or anything, just some Bro dirtbiker queers so im pretty much just ready to throw down with them and leave it at that. About the 20 minutes, I had been talking to this chick at the gym all week , when I went to her house we both knew what was going down....no point sitting around when we both wanted to fvck the **** outta of eachother. I dont think im gonna need to go to the hospital, I do feel fvckin ****ty but id know if it was something really serious. If these dude's keep persisting after our brawl on friday ,that's when ill probably get the cop's involved
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.