Dante420
Master Don Juan
Am I the only one who wouldn't go to the police in this situation?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ThatMysteriousGuy said:Dude, it is her fault. You were a pawn in her game. So, actually, it's your fault too for not seeing something was wrong.
When it's too damned easy and fast on a woman's turf, especially when she's that fine, you need to stop and push her back. If she's REALLY interested and not using you for something bad she's up to, her IL will go through the roof and up into the stratosphere. You should do this in general with women who are amped out like she was anyway, she'll be 10x better in bed when she hits resistance.
If she gets really pissed, you need to grab your **** and run. This sort of thing happens all of the time. I always pull eject if I can't get a woman to slow down on her own turf and she gets angry. Either she's mental or it means the **** isn't the central idea, she's getting hot and bothered about getting caught and causing some drama.
I'll also bet that if you think back at what she was doing she was a bit distracted in some ways. Girls like that will have part of the attention on noises going on outside and such because they've already texted the guy they want to piss off "don't come by my house, i've got a date here" to the guy that's going to be kicking your ass with some of his friends to help out.
zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
What makes a difference is if he goes to the police. If he does not and chooses to handle things himself (like I would do), I would first go get a can of pepper spray and a steel pipe and beat the ex-bf to an inch of his life after spraying him so that he can't defend himself, then, text the girl with a picture of him after you smashed his skull in and is about to die and ask her: "so, is this what you wanted?"zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't see how court would cost you money. It would be the government's prosecutor trying to convict them, and their defense attorney. Unless you're trying to sue them, you wouldn't need a lawyer at all.rocksoff said:I dont know ...but for some reason id rather just not get the police involved, Police means court , lawyers and pretty much just a bunch of bull**** id rather not go through(Plus i did punch one kid so i could see it getting complicated in court ). These dudes arent like gangbangers or anything, just some Bro dirtbiker queers so im pretty much just ready to throw down with them and leave it at that. About the 20 minutes, I had been talking to this chick at the gym all week , when I went to her house we both knew what was going down....no point sitting around when we both wanted to fvck the **** outta of eachother. I dont think im gonna need to go to the hospital, I do feel fvckin ****ty but id know if it was something really serious. If these dude's keep persisting after our brawl on friday ,that's when ill probably get the cop's involved
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.