Dante420
Master Don Juan
Am I the only one who wouldn't go to the police in this situation?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ThatMysteriousGuy said:Dude, it is her fault. You were a pawn in her game. So, actually, it's your fault too for not seeing something was wrong.
When it's too damned easy and fast on a woman's turf, especially when she's that fine, you need to stop and push her back. If she's REALLY interested and not using you for something bad she's up to, her IL will go through the roof and up into the stratosphere. You should do this in general with women who are amped out like she was anyway, she'll be 10x better in bed when she hits resistance.
If she gets really pissed, you need to grab your **** and run. This sort of thing happens all of the time. I always pull eject if I can't get a woman to slow down on her own turf and she gets angry. Either she's mental or it means the **** isn't the central idea, she's getting hot and bothered about getting caught and causing some drama.
I'll also bet that if you think back at what she was doing she was a bit distracted in some ways. Girls like that will have part of the attention on noises going on outside and such because they've already texted the guy they want to piss off "don't come by my house, i've got a date here" to the guy that's going to be kicking your ass with some of his friends to help out.
zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
What makes a difference is if he goes to the police. If he does not and chooses to handle things himself (like I would do), I would first go get a can of pepper spray and a steel pipe and beat the ex-bf to an inch of his life after spraying him so that he can't defend himself, then, text the girl with a picture of him after you smashed his skull in and is about to die and ask her: "so, is this what you wanted?"zekko said:For all the posters suggesting he press charges - it sounds like he threw the first punch. Does this make a difference?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I don't see how court would cost you money. It would be the government's prosecutor trying to convict them, and their defense attorney. Unless you're trying to sue them, you wouldn't need a lawyer at all.rocksoff said:I dont know ...but for some reason id rather just not get the police involved, Police means court , lawyers and pretty much just a bunch of bull**** id rather not go through(Plus i did punch one kid so i could see it getting complicated in court ). These dudes arent like gangbangers or anything, just some Bro dirtbiker queers so im pretty much just ready to throw down with them and leave it at that. About the 20 minutes, I had been talking to this chick at the gym all week , when I went to her house we both knew what was going down....no point sitting around when we both wanted to fvck the **** outta of eachother. I dont think im gonna need to go to the hospital, I do feel fvckin ****ty but id know if it was something really serious. If these dude's keep persisting after our brawl on friday ,that's when ill probably get the cop's involved
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.