Hey fellas,
I've been a reader of these boards for almost a 1.5 years. Fantastic stuff.
I've never had much problem attracting the ladies, thanks to the fact that I have two smooth older brothers who pretty much showed me the ropes. However, I have rather little experience when it comes to LTRs.
Here's the background info. I'm 18, met an 18-year-old chick about three months ago. She's very inexperienced -- only ever kissed a guy before me, so I had to take it slow. We've been serious for about two months now and I think this one is a keeper for now. I know she's very into me, because she's conservative but we've already had sex. Plus, she says she loves me.
Ok, now part of the reason why she was a tough catch was because she was still hurting over a past crush. Some guy who she was into for a long time and who she kissed a few times (he sounds like a cool cat but an AFC to the bone) broke her heart about five months ago. They cut off contact. Cold turkey.
Well, about the time we started dating, he starts contacting her again, over IM and phone and they actually were very close friends for a long time, so they get to chatting again, etc. I figure she's with me so nothing to worry about.
Now, a few days ago she tells me on the phone (I'm away from home now so we're doing "long distance" for three weeks -- no biggie) that her ex, Peter, told her he wants to meet up with her before he leaves for school. Being a girl, she totally doesn't see that he's probably trying to get his foot in the door again, and she thinks that since they were such good friends and now on talking terms again, she wants to hang out with him a little before he moves away.
When she told me this, I totally kept my cool, told her to go ahead and have fun. I figured that I would look weak if I overreacted. From past conversations she knows I have zero tolerance for cheating and she told me right after "you have nothing to worry about." Of course, I told her I knew I have nothing to worry about and cut off the conversation on a high note.
My question to you all: Should I just forget about it and not even inquire if they met up? Should I be worried? I feel like since I'm gone, there really isn't anything I can do. What are your thoughts? Does this one seem like a lost cause?
I've been a reader of these boards for almost a 1.5 years. Fantastic stuff.
I've never had much problem attracting the ladies, thanks to the fact that I have two smooth older brothers who pretty much showed me the ropes. However, I have rather little experience when it comes to LTRs.
Here's the background info. I'm 18, met an 18-year-old chick about three months ago. She's very inexperienced -- only ever kissed a guy before me, so I had to take it slow. We've been serious for about two months now and I think this one is a keeper for now. I know she's very into me, because she's conservative but we've already had sex. Plus, she says she loves me.
Ok, now part of the reason why she was a tough catch was because she was still hurting over a past crush. Some guy who she was into for a long time and who she kissed a few times (he sounds like a cool cat but an AFC to the bone) broke her heart about five months ago. They cut off contact. Cold turkey.
Well, about the time we started dating, he starts contacting her again, over IM and phone and they actually were very close friends for a long time, so they get to chatting again, etc. I figure she's with me so nothing to worry about.
Now, a few days ago she tells me on the phone (I'm away from home now so we're doing "long distance" for three weeks -- no biggie) that her ex, Peter, told her he wants to meet up with her before he leaves for school. Being a girl, she totally doesn't see that he's probably trying to get his foot in the door again, and she thinks that since they were such good friends and now on talking terms again, she wants to hang out with him a little before he moves away.
When she told me this, I totally kept my cool, told her to go ahead and have fun. I figured that I would look weak if I overreacted. From past conversations she knows I have zero tolerance for cheating and she told me right after "you have nothing to worry about." Of course, I told her I knew I have nothing to worry about and cut off the conversation on a high note.
My question to you all: Should I just forget about it and not even inquire if they met up? Should I be worried? I feel like since I'm gone, there really isn't anything I can do. What are your thoughts? Does this one seem like a lost cause?