"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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OLD. Been chatting since yesterday and spoke for the majority of today. Not just brief texts but full page ones back and forth. Now, I want to meet asap but she's just came out of hospital and can't meet for possibly 2 weeks. How do I sustain her interest for that long? I don't want to talk too much as it takes away the mystery and there'll be nothing to discuss when we meet. If I flake a bit, she might back off. It's just hard to sustain until we meet. Ideally we need to have met this weekend but it's out of our hands. How to proceed with this? We get on quite well and there is something there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You don't... Just tell her to let you know when she's available then forget about her. If she reaches out, make a date and see what happens. Make dates with other girls until she reaches out, you make a date, and she keeps it... then you like her... she should be nothing to you. Don't over think sh!t. It's online dating, so you are likely just one of a dozen dudes that are hitting her up... you should assume you really don't mean that much to her.
 
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RangerMIke said:
You don't... Just tell her to let you know when she's available then forget about her. If she reaches out, make a date and see what happens. Make dates with other girls until she reaches out, you make a date, and she keeps it... then you like her... she should be nothing to you. Don't over think sh!t. It's online dating, so you are likely just one of a dozen dudes that are hitting her up... you should assume you really don't mean that much to her.
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^^this
 
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Go out, talk to girls. Sheeesh, you can't even be certain, she's a girl!

 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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