Master Don Juan
- Jul 29, 2020
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You sound desperate, work isn't the place or time for this
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1.perfectI don't see anything wrong with asking out co-workers. Workplace is the high-school/college equivalent for adults.
You're putting this girl on a pedestal, that's your problem (count the times you used amazing, awesome in OP referring to her). She may be physically attractive (just like plenty other girls), but you don't know her enough so don't assume she's a once in a lifetime opportunity that just got away from you.
This..yesterday I say this brunette who was always just a skinny teenager, but now, like magically, she became a big booty 20 something y.o that made me break my neck and I was like; " she'll either reject me or I'll kill her p00sy". On top of my hitlist of local girls outta NOWHERE.Give it 10 years. The most attractive women I have known.... looks fade... every "most attractive" woman I have known is always replaced by a younger more attractive woman sooner or later. The personality is all that remains. Also, after you know a girl, she becomes more human and at least for me, one can start to see the flaws. Infatuation hides flaws
This.How do you know she's an awesome girl? Just because she has a nice body and nice face? Men like your deserve to be rejected, until you change that attitude for real.
I was OP at one point, we all were OP at one point, that's why I got what I deserved, getting rejected constantly, thinking she was great cause she was hot, allowing $hit cause she was hot. We men are really $tupid sometimes.This.
OP is in for a world of pain if he keeps this mentality up. Great post, short but yet underrated and highly important for ALL men to understand!!
I don't believe in 10s, so if you go by that, yeah they're pretty rare. Why do you need a 10 anyway, wouldn't an 8 or 9 be good enough?
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Ask her out and get it over with.I'm almost in the same position except i haven't asked mine out yet. She is a top-tier gorgeous, magnetic face, very popular and guys drool after her. Also seems to be smart and well educated. I don't like 1-10 rating so i described her like this.
I see her once a week at these specific theater group gatherings where she hangs around with her group of friends, a few guys and a few girls usually. The first period was pretty hard because there was no opportunity to talk with her alone, I had to basically do a cold approach in front of her group. But I waited for an opportunity and it presented itself, where we finally met officially and she shook my hand extremely firmly, was receptive in the conversation and I took it as a green light. Now I'm waiting for the next meeting where I don't really have a plan but I'll do something, I just dont know what. Any advice? For the note I consider myself a very interesting and attractive guy with my own thing going on (business, motorbikes, gym fit etc.) backed up by my history of dating beautiful girls. However I can be very awkward in person and I don't talk a lot. Also I don't know how to handle rejection in person.
Currently what I'm doing is devalueing her in my head. I don't have a burning desire like OP but I have to shoot my shot before I start feeling like a *****. She is a good opportunity and I wanna see what's going on.
A) you asked her out before you were well-calibrated. Work on your social skills.
How do you get to that level then? Can you reach to that level if you're not someone who won the genetic lottery-- white, 6'4, born rich, handsome guy? I would like to believe so..? What would it take to get to that level, not necessarily to supermodel level but like the bombshells level?A) you asked her out before you were well-calibrated. Work on your social skills.
B) you asked out a coworker. Don't defecate where you dine. I understand if you have no other options, but dating anyone at work is mostly a recipe for disaster. Avoid if possible.
C) there are many beautiful women on this earth, she's not a unicorn. Stop worshipping hotness.
D) would you date you? many guys are looking for supermodels, but supermodels will tend to date someone of equal or higher value. Are you there yet? My guess is not, because when you get to that value, you don't look up at gorgeous women and you sure as hell don't 'rate' them.
Yeah, i know...its weird, I didn't have these oneitis like symptoms before but got them after rejection..You could start by taking this woman off the pedestal. She is not as hot as you think she is. She's not perfect. She isn't an angel. You're simply infatuated with her currently and not able to discern what is real from the idealized angelic illusion in your own head.
Would a HB10 want to date you with how you're feeling and acting right now? This level of emotional reactivity and neediness shines through and can't be hidden. You can't negotiate attraction at the end of the day. Even if you did all the things discussed on this board, were a genetic chad and natural, it is highly likely that she simply wouldn't be attracted to you. Outcome independence and abundance are paramount and right now you have neither.