You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I paid about $700 for drivers education (helps on the insurance prices), then after car registration and all those nonsense fees were over I was another $300 in the hole.Adone said:Man, I managed to get mine the very previous day you took yours! I had tried 2 times and unluck had me failing both times, but I finally managed to get it. I can't wait to buy a car and drive around with loud music on
Regarding the age issue, I've heard that in Colorado you can get your licence by the time you are 14, is it true?! Here in Italy, it's 18 and it also costs somewhere between 500$ and 1000$... Are prices that high in Australia and USA?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Really? Some time ago I read that it usually costs less than 100$ in Texas to take a driver's licence... If I happen to find that site again, I'll post it hereTheNewGuy said:I paid about $700 for drivers education (helps on the insurance prices), then after car registration and all those nonsense fees were over I was another $300 in the hole.
This is USA.
LegendBoy said:What age do you get a licence where you can drive around on your own in America?
Here it is 17. I took so ****ing long to get it.
Abbott said:It depends. Generally, in most places in the U.S., it's 16. I've heard though that it's 18 in PA (Pennsylvania). I've never heard of it being 18 in just the city of NY. In Chicago it's all about state law, which is 16 (though no doubt the insurance rates for 16 y/o Chicago drivers must be INSANE).
These age limits of course apply to (here in IL, anyway) Class D licenses, which means you can drive just about any car or "light truck." There are vehicles that it won't let you drive, but most people don't drive those vehicles. Such a license doesn't let you transport "hazardous materials," but how many people transport gasoline, liquid nitrogen, or radioactive materials?
As for costs, it depends. Here it's $20 for a standard Class D license for four years. The permits also costs, though I can't remember (it's been a few years for me). I also remember that my school also had a Driver's Ed program that cost like $50 (cheap!), while private instructors charged several hundred dollars.
The permit means you need a parent, legal guardian, driving instructor, and/or an approved adult (who's 21+ and 1yr+ exp.) to ride with you. I'm guessing the last part is to help out parents who can't, for whatever reason, drive.
After the license, no restrictions. However, things might have changed in the last few years since I got my original license.
Ben
Adone said:In this same thread, another guy said that getting a license in America costs about 1000$, now you are saying it costs 50$. How come?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.