"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Got my Licence.. Finally
- Thread starter LegendBoy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
. But when my insurance comes in for my car I'll know the feeling. Congratulations!insanity
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Does feel pretty empowering to be honest. I need to get a cd player speaks and subwoofers for ze car i get.. Looking forward to cruising.
goldenrocker91
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Regarding the age issue, I've heard that in Colorado you can get your licence by the time you are 14, is it true?! Here in Italy, it's 18 and it also costs somewhere between 500$ and 1000$... Are prices that high in Australia and USA?
I paid about $700 for drivers education (helps on the insurance prices), then after car registration and all those nonsense fees were over I was another $300 in the hole.Adone said:Man, I managed to get mine the very previous day you took yours! I had tried 2 times and unluck had me failing both times, but I finally managed to get it. I can't wait to buy a car and drive around with loud music on
Regarding the age issue, I've heard that in Colorado you can get your licence by the time you are 14, is it true?! Here in Italy, it's 18 and it also costs somewhere between 500$ and 1000$... Are prices that high in Australia and USA?
This is USA.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
In Australian you get your learners licence at age 16 years old meaning you need somone with a full licence in the passenger seat. Then at 17 you get your Red P's which is the licence I got. Meaning I can drive at 90km/h max(who obeys it) and I can drive with no mum near me :yes: . Then in 1 year you get your Green P's and then in 2 years full licence.
In Australia there is a point system on my licence I get three points. So if i speed about 10 over the speed limit I lose like 3 points there goes my licence.
The Road and Trafic authority in australia are money cows.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
LegendBoy said:
It depends. Generally, in most places in the U.S., it's 16. I've heard though that it's 18 in PA (Pennsylvania). I've never heard of it being 18 in just the city of NY. In Chicago it's all about state law, which is 16 (though no doubt the insurance rates for 16 y/o Chicago drivers must be INSANE).
These age limits of course apply to (here in IL, anyway) Class D licenses, which means you can drive just about any car or "light truck." There are vehicles that it won't let you drive, but most people don't drive those vehicles. Such a license doesn't let you transport "hazardous materials," but how many people transport gasoline, liquid nitrogen, or radioactive materials?
As for costs, it depends. Here it's $20 for a standard Class D license for four years. The permits also costs, though I can't remember (it's been a few years for me). I also remember that my school also had a Driver's Ed program that cost like $50 (cheap!), while private instructors charged several hundred dollars.
The permit means you need a parent, legal guardian, driving instructor, and/or an approved adult (who's 21+ and 1yr+ exp.) to ride with you. I'm guessing the last part is to help out parents who can't, for whatever reason, drive.
After the license, no restrictions. However, things might have changed in the last few years since I got my original license.
Ben
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Adone said:
The reasons for this are easy to see. The $50 price I quoted was just for the class. There are other costs too, such as what needs to be paid to the state in fees (there's no U.S. driver's license, they're issued by states though it's good anywhere in the U.S.).
The $50 class was actually subsidized. I'm not sure who subsidized it, but some government organization. Without it, the class would cost much more, like $350. There was a concern recently that the subsidy would be dropped due to budget concerns, and if this happened students wouldn't be interested in taking the class in high school and instead use private driving schools. Without the subsidy, the class would cost $350. Since private driving schools charge like $400 or so, the concern is real since the private driving schools can offer better flexibility, and there's no financial incentive to do it through the high school.
It's possible that in other places, people aren't lucky enough to have the driving class subsidized. Heck, in some places driving might even be discouraged, though it's personally hard to picture. Around here anyway, owning a car is a defacto requirement. Public transit, while it exists, is lousy and anything but comprehensive. Plus there are many places here that are difficult to reach if you don't have a car.
Apparently, I got lucky and was able to take the class in high school for a low price. Also, because I had a summer birthday I had no incentive to take the class outside of school, so I could get my driver's license sooner (some people had to wait a little while after the legal minimum age, due to time commitments they might've had at the time).
Despite whatever it costs where you live, I believe that learning to drive is a skill everyone should have. You never know when you might need it. Even if you live in say, NYC where it's very possible to get through day-to-day life without driving, you might need to rent a car, drive a friend's car, whatever.
Plus if you live in an area where the driving age is less than 18 (most of the U.S., not sure about other countries), it'll be a big load off your parents' shoulders since they no longer need to drive you places.
Ben
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.