"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Got my Licence.. Finally
- Thread starter LegendBoy
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
. But when my insurance comes in for my car I'll know the feeling. Congratulations!insanity
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Does feel pretty empowering to be honest. I need to get a cd player speaks and subwoofers for ze car i get.. Looking forward to cruising.
goldenrocker91
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Regarding the age issue, I've heard that in Colorado you can get your licence by the time you are 14, is it true?! Here in Italy, it's 18 and it also costs somewhere between 500$ and 1000$... Are prices that high in Australia and USA?
I paid about $700 for drivers education (helps on the insurance prices), then after car registration and all those nonsense fees were over I was another $300 in the hole.Adone said:Man, I managed to get mine the very previous day you took yours! I had tried 2 times and unluck had me failing both times, but I finally managed to get it. I can't wait to buy a car and drive around with loud music on
Regarding the age issue, I've heard that in Colorado you can get your licence by the time you are 14, is it true?! Here in Italy, it's 18 and it also costs somewhere between 500$ and 1000$... Are prices that high in Australia and USA?
This is USA.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
In Australian you get your learners licence at age 16 years old meaning you need somone with a full licence in the passenger seat. Then at 17 you get your Red P's which is the licence I got. Meaning I can drive at 90km/h max(who obeys it) and I can drive with no mum near me :yes: . Then in 1 year you get your Green P's and then in 2 years full licence.
In Australia there is a point system on my licence I get three points. So if i speed about 10 over the speed limit I lose like 3 points there goes my licence.
The Road and Trafic authority in australia are money cows.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
LegendBoy said:
It depends. Generally, in most places in the U.S., it's 16. I've heard though that it's 18 in PA (Pennsylvania). I've never heard of it being 18 in just the city of NY. In Chicago it's all about state law, which is 16 (though no doubt the insurance rates for 16 y/o Chicago drivers must be INSANE).
These age limits of course apply to (here in IL, anyway) Class D licenses, which means you can drive just about any car or "light truck." There are vehicles that it won't let you drive, but most people don't drive those vehicles. Such a license doesn't let you transport "hazardous materials," but how many people transport gasoline, liquid nitrogen, or radioactive materials?
As for costs, it depends. Here it's $20 for a standard Class D license for four years. The permits also costs, though I can't remember (it's been a few years for me). I also remember that my school also had a Driver's Ed program that cost like $50 (cheap!), while private instructors charged several hundred dollars.
The permit means you need a parent, legal guardian, driving instructor, and/or an approved adult (who's 21+ and 1yr+ exp.) to ride with you. I'm guessing the last part is to help out parents who can't, for whatever reason, drive.
After the license, no restrictions. However, things might have changed in the last few years since I got my original license.
Ben
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Adone said:
The reasons for this are easy to see. The $50 price I quoted was just for the class. There are other costs too, such as what needs to be paid to the state in fees (there's no U.S. driver's license, they're issued by states though it's good anywhere in the U.S.).
The $50 class was actually subsidized. I'm not sure who subsidized it, but some government organization. Without it, the class would cost much more, like $350. There was a concern recently that the subsidy would be dropped due to budget concerns, and if this happened students wouldn't be interested in taking the class in high school and instead use private driving schools. Without the subsidy, the class would cost $350. Since private driving schools charge like $400 or so, the concern is real since the private driving schools can offer better flexibility, and there's no financial incentive to do it through the high school.
It's possible that in other places, people aren't lucky enough to have the driving class subsidized. Heck, in some places driving might even be discouraged, though it's personally hard to picture. Around here anyway, owning a car is a defacto requirement. Public transit, while it exists, is lousy and anything but comprehensive. Plus there are many places here that are difficult to reach if you don't have a car.
Apparently, I got lucky and was able to take the class in high school for a low price. Also, because I had a summer birthday I had no incentive to take the class outside of school, so I could get my driver's license sooner (some people had to wait a little while after the legal minimum age, due to time commitments they might've had at the time).
Despite whatever it costs where you live, I believe that learning to drive is a skill everyone should have. You never know when you might need it. Even if you live in say, NYC where it's very possible to get through day-to-day life without driving, you might need to rent a car, drive a friend's car, whatever.
Plus if you live in an area where the driving age is less than 18 (most of the U.S., not sure about other countries), it'll be a big load off your parents' shoulders since they no longer need to drive you places.
Ben
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.