So I got my first number last night... I'm thinking that I am going to text her and possibly set up a day 2. Is the next evening too soon? I was thinking of waiting longer but there is only 2 weeks left in my semester so I kind wanted to move things along. I was thinking of opening with something along the lines of "Hey I'm looking for the cute girl who gave me her phone number the other night. Have you seen her?" Is that too cute? Should I go for more of a neg approach?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Got my first number
- Thread starter BigMak87
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I guess congrats but remember that getting the number doesn't mean much. I get lots of girls' numbers. You know how many of them I go on dates with? Maybe 1 out of every 10. There's way too many attention *****s around these days.
Yeah, I am by no means bragging at all... and am just kinda wondering about some tips I should try to take from here... of course I will be out next weekend trying to get more #s, and I'm not going to lie even getting one number makes your confidence soar at least for the rest of the night!
Maybe I'm just getting jaded in my old age but I'm really starting to get tired of women and their behavior. I don't get much of a confidence boost from getting a number because I know the chances of anything coming out of it.
well done on getting her number
usually 2 or 3 days is a good amount of time to wait before contacting her
forget the negs and all that bullshyt
just be normal and have a normal conversation with her and ask her out on a date
usually 2 or 3 days is a good amount of time to wait before contacting her
forget the negs and all that bullshyt
just be normal and have a normal conversation with her and ask her out on a date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.