"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Got my 1st Number

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Allright i got my first phone #. i'm a bit nervous actually. i'll wait 4 days to call and hopefully i won't mess up. it's my first time. i already failed because of my state of mind. let me retype that.

Yeah!! I got my first #. I'm nervous but i will grow out of it. I'll wait 4 days to call. I will have a good time and she will too. It's my first time, all the more exciting, and i will gain valuable experience. It will be awesome. I will repeat to myself. "I AM DJ" "I AM DJ"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey, man congrats on the #. But, screw that DJ Bible. Their is no certain amount of days that you have to wait to call. BS! Call her whenever you want. Tonight. Tomorrow. Whenever. A DJ calls when he wants. And, just because you got her number does not always mean she will still want to hang out later. She might flake and make up some excuse to not go with you, or she might not even answer. If she flakes or doesn't pick up, chalk it up to experience.

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ryannath said:
Hey, man congrats on the #. But, screw that DJ Bible. Their is no certain amount of days that you have to wait to call. BS! Call her whenever you want. Tonight. Tomorrow. Whenever. A DJ calls when he wants. And, just because you got her number does not always mean she will still want to hang out later. She might flake and make up some excuse to not go with you, or she might not even answer. If she flakes or doesn't pick up, chalk it up to experience.

ryannath
No, dont call whenever you want, thats horrible advice. At least wait a few days so you dont come off as incredibly desperate.
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
No, dont call whenever you want, thats horrible advice. At least wait a few days so you dont come off as incredibly desperate.
ya dude, follow this tip in the beginning. maybe, if things get better, you should call her whenever you feel is right, not a pattern of 2 or 3 days. after the 2nd date is probably a good time, but only because your in HS (so am i, i can relate). in HS the rules are a little different, so you can get away with this.
 

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I'm waiting 4 days because thats when i'm pretty sure i'll have time. Ice Skating sounds good, based on the previous post, and i can ice skate. Another question has arisen. Should i pay? i'm a bit broke, but i'm just wondering if you guys would.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you'r broke then then dont. Congrats man! Tell us the how/what?!
 

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Congrats, Ice skating is always fun and there is no limit to "kino" pretty much. That's what I'm doing for my first date with this chick. Hellls yeah.
 

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Yo Guys i called yesterday and we set up the "hang out" today. Ice Skating it is! I was so nervous when i got the phone out and the piece of paper with her #. I was shaking so i did several things to calm me down.

Got my jacket, put it on, to keep me warm and reduce my "shaking".
I went in my bro's room while he was playing with the PSP and had a quick convo about which character pwns which character.
I then turned on Comedy Central and picked up several keywords that i later used subconciously. "Patronize" was one of them i forgot other. and then i called, calm and relaxed.

edit: god damn rain lol i had to cancel and postpone.
 
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Indoor activities are not controlled by weather.
 

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lmfao charm!!!(btw thats a nice name)

lol, but yeah ice skating is fun. go make an excuse that you cant skate and tell her you need her hand or else you'll fall and at times purposely fall on her and have fun. your doing good.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yo Today went great. I made a few mistakes but it did not matter because we both had a hell of a time, and mistakes are part of life. I owe my new mind set to this site and to everyone contributes to sosuave.net. Oh, and Charm, thanks for the slap in the face =)

One thing i learned is to always seek self improvement, when you fail you are motiviated to try. when you succeed, you tend to be "overconfident" and slack off. Always motiviate yourself no matter the outcome.
 
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