"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Allright i got my first phone #. i'm a bit nervous actually. i'll wait 4 days to call and hopefully i won't mess up. it's my first time. i already failed because of my state of mind. let me retype that.

Yeah!! I got my first #. I'm nervous but i will grow out of it. I'll wait 4 days to call. I will have a good time and she will too. It's my first time, all the more exciting, and i will gain valuable experience. It will be awesome. I will repeat to myself. "I AM DJ" "I AM DJ"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey, man congrats on the #. But, screw that DJ Bible. Their is no certain amount of days that you have to wait to call. BS! Call her whenever you want. Tonight. Tomorrow. Whenever. A DJ calls when he wants. And, just because you got her number does not always mean she will still want to hang out later. She might flake and make up some excuse to not go with you, or she might not even answer. If she flakes or doesn't pick up, chalk it up to experience.

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ryannath said:
Hey, man congrats on the #. But, screw that DJ Bible. Their is no certain amount of days that you have to wait to call. BS! Call her whenever you want. Tonight. Tomorrow. Whenever. A DJ calls when he wants. And, just because you got her number does not always mean she will still want to hang out later. She might flake and make up some excuse to not go with you, or she might not even answer. If she flakes or doesn't pick up, chalk it up to experience.

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No, dont call whenever you want, thats horrible advice. At least wait a few days so you dont come off as incredibly desperate.
 
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No, dont call whenever you want, thats horrible advice. At least wait a few days so you dont come off as incredibly desperate.
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ya dude, follow this tip in the beginning. maybe, if things get better, you should call her whenever you feel is right, not a pattern of 2 or 3 days. after the 2nd date is probably a good time, but only because your in HS (so am i, i can relate). in HS the rules are a little different, so you can get away with this.
 
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I'm waiting 4 days because thats when i'm pretty sure i'll have time. Ice Skating sounds good, based on the previous post, and i can ice skate. Another question has arisen. Should i pay? i'm a bit broke, but i'm just wondering if you guys would.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you'r broke then then dont. Congrats man! Tell us the how/what?!
 
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Congrats, Ice skating is always fun and there is no limit to "kino" pretty much. That's what I'm doing for my first date with this chick. Hellls yeah.
 
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Yo Guys i called yesterday and we set up the "hang out" today. Ice Skating it is! I was so nervous when i got the phone out and the piece of paper with her #. I was shaking so i did several things to calm me down.

Got my jacket, put it on, to keep me warm and reduce my "shaking".
I went in my bro's room while he was playing with the PSP and had a quick convo about which character pwns which character.
I then turned on Comedy Central and picked up several keywords that i later used subconciously. "Patronize" was one of them i forgot other. and then i called, calm and relaxed.

edit: god damn rain lol i had to cancel and postpone.
 
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Indoor activities are not controlled by weather.
 
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lmfao charm!!!(btw thats a nice name)

lol, but yeah ice skating is fun. go make an excuse that you cant skate and tell her you need her hand or else you'll fall and at times purposely fall on her and have fun. your doing good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yo Today went great. I made a few mistakes but it did not matter because we both had a hell of a time, and mistakes are part of life. I owe my new mind set to this site and to everyone contributes to sosuave.net. Oh, and Charm, thanks for the slap in the face =)

One thing i learned is to always seek self improvement, when you fail you are motiviated to try. when you succeed, you tend to be "overconfident" and slack off. Always motiviate yourself no matter the outcome.
 
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