Got LJBF'd...NC and move on?

[hotsauce1295]

Date 1: We went out for drinks. Kept it light, casual, fun and flirty. Lots of joking around and touching. Texted me same night saying had a fun night and if i was ok. Replied back and told her i would hit her up in a few weeks since she mentioned being busy the next few weeks. (was actually being polite and had no real intention of hitting her up). She texted me the next day saying that she was available the upcoming weekend. Flirted/joked and setup next date.

Date 2: Drinks, movie, more drinks, madeout. Date was light, casual, fun and flirty just like the first date. Lots of touching, caressing and madeout in the end.

The next day she texted me asking what I was doing tonight. Told her I had some errands to run but might be available after 10pm (hoping we just meet at my place or hers since it would be later in the evening). She texted me later that night

Her: Hey i'm home but I'm kind of tired...
Me: It's all good. Get some rest and we'll kick it later this week
Her: I really wanna see u tonight though. Idk why...
Me: Then i'll be over in a bit.
Her: Wait..my place is a mess. Wat r we gonna do? I don't have a TV...
Me: Don't need one. I have plenty of ideas
Her: Oh? Don't get any ideas. No funny business!!
Me: Lol. I'll see u in a bit

So I get to her place. Offers me a beer and we lay in her bed cuddling and talking about our day. She has her head on my shoulders both enjoying the moment with lots of kino. Out of nowhere she says "Would it be ok if we just became friends? I still don't know how I feel about you. You're weird...I'm so confused...I don't really feel a connection. You seem like a playboy. You're always joking around, never really serious about anything, always flirty and sexual and at the same time you're really quiet. I can't get a read on you're personality." At this point I immediately turn her head to me and started making out and eventually pushed me away. We cuddled again and madeout while trying to escalate but pushed me away again and turned her back. Eventually we cuddled again and she started to fall asleep while stroking my arm and at this point I'm confused as f*&k. A few minutes later she asks "what are you thinking?". I just reply with "I dunno, but I'm gonna head out. I gotta be up early. Night." Gave her a kiss and left. So confused while driving home.

The next day she texted me "are you ok?" and I replied "of course". Looking back it seems like she was seeking a more deep emotional connection which i was unable to provide. I admit that I do have a problem with opening up and getting into deeper/serious convos for the first couple of dates.

Not gonna lie. I kinda developed some feels in the process. I can't get that night in her bed out of my mind and it's been bothering mainly due to the fact that I was unable to seal the deal. It's been 5 days since that last text. Not sure where I should go from here. I know she's attracted to me physically but def not yet emotionally. May be too late though.


Haven't spoken in 5 days so I guess its NC, next her and move on to next plate?

 

[Chamber36]

Oh my god what a tear jerker of a story lol.

It's like you reached the finish line and then your "line fobia" kicked in and you couldn't cross.

She was ready for the lay bro.

I think she was screening to make sure you're not a player. Don't consider it a LJBF. She has high interest, she just needs more comfort/passion from you. She just wants reassurance that you like her.

Text (or call) her and offer her something nice and romantic. Anything dude. She was in a romantic mood as well even, inviting you over to do nothing but "talk about your day". Sounds like such a missed opportunity.

You should really call or text sooner than later though, because I'm sure she's waiting for you.

It is natural however that it may take a while since you have to come to terms with - or comprehend - what happened there last time.

I think you should just move in quickly though before she gets distracted by some other guy or her interest level fades away.

Really, text her sooner rather than later. Even if u can't make plans. Don't just leave her there on hold.

 

[hotsauce1295]

Lol yea, its driving me nuts how that night ended and it got to my head if she's really not interested in me or not.

I'll text her to see if shes game to getting together.

But would this make me look desperate?

Thanks

 

[cola]

She is demisexual. She needed that emotional connection to validate giving you the puss. Keep it light and fun but every once in a while add a glimmer of substance to the interaction. A heartwarming child hood story, how a girl broke your heart before .. when you are too light and funny you seem invincible.
Gotta give them some hope that they can domesticate you.
You'll run across these types.

I'd move on.

 

[Chamber36]

Lol yea, its driving me nuts how that night ended and it got to my head if she's really not interested in me or not.

I'll text her to see if shes game to getting together.

But would this make me look desperate?

Thanks

What do you mean make you look desperate? Either you like her or you don't.

Just text her to see if she wants to see you.

No Jibber Jabber. If it gets confusing - call her up on the phone - and talk to her there. That way you'll be able to tell how she feels as well and guage what she wants.

By the way - don't rush her. If she doesn't have time immediately roll with the punches.

Just be courteous and complaisant.

I'd say there's probably a 50% chance she'll make plans with you, 50% chance she'll just tell you she doesn't know when she has time quite yet.

Either way just accept it. Get it done and over with.

 

[RangerMIke]

She's trying to corral you in... don't let that happen. You could have banged her if you were better at being funny and ****y... but since this isn't you, just move on, go after other chicks and see what happens.

My guess is that if you disappear and let her know to reach out when she wants to see you she'll be back... if not so what.. there are other girls. I think you did a nice job, but if you are not a naturally ****y funny dude, you have to back off and let her come back to you.

Be patient... it's been 5 day... big deal. I've have women take 3 weeks before they come back. Remember women need men, we do not need women.

 

[hotsauce1295]

Well looks like she doesn't feel that emotional connection and wants to be friends.

Time to focus on my dates for this week.

Appreciate the feedback guys.

 

[Trump]

Date 1: We went out for drinks. Kept it light, casual, fun and flirty. Lots of joking around and touching. Texted me same night saying had a fun night and if i was ok. Replied back and told her i would hit her up in a few weeks since she mentioned being busy the next few weeks. (was actually being polite and had no real intention of hitting her up).

Bro don't even be polite. She can use it against you. If you don't hit her up, the value of your word has gone down, your image has gone down, your trustworthiness has gone down, among other things. Yes its simple girl, but still.

So I get to her place. Offers me a beer and we lay in her bed cuddling and talking about our day. She has her head on my shoulders both enjoying the moment with lots of kino. Out of nowhere she says "Would it be ok if we just became friends? I still don't know how I feel about you. You're weird...I'm so confused...I don't really feel a connection. You seem like a playboy. You're always joking around, never really serious about anything, always flirty and sexual and at the same time you're really quiet. I can't get a read on you're personality." At this point I immediately turn her head to me and started making out and eventually pushed me away.

LOL. Girl spills her heart out and the reply is: "Girl shut the F up and start taking off your clothes."

We cuddled again and madeout while trying to escalate but pushed me away again and turned her back. Eventually we cuddled again and she started to fall asleep while stroking my arm and at this point I'm confused as f*&k. A few minutes later she asks "what are you thinking?". I just reply with "I dunno, but I'm gonna head out. I gotta be up early. Night." Gave her a kiss and left. So confused while driving home.

What the hell? You are smooth enough to get in her bed but then you freeze at "what are you thinking?" You say "I'm thinking I'm in love and want to sleep with you."

The next day she texted me "are you ok?" and I replied "of course". Looking back it seems like she was seeking a more deep emotional connection which i was unable to provide. I admit that I do have a problem with opening up and getting into deeper/serious convos for the first couple of dates.

Not gonna lie. I kinda developed some feels in the process. I can't get that night in her bed out of my mind and it's been bothering mainly due to the fact that I was unable to seal the deal.

It's been 5 days since that last text. Not sure where I should go from here. I know she's attracted to me physically but def not yet emotionally. May be too late though.

Haven't spoken in 5 days so I guess its NC, next her and move on to next plate?

No bro you are lying to yourself. It's bothering you because you like her and want to get close to her, not because you didn't have sex with her. You are running away from your own feelings with this girl. She hit a nerve and you got shook up.

Just text her and ask her out for a bite or something. Unless you are afraid she may go into an area you are uncomfortable going too...

 

[Chamber36]

Well looks like she doesn't feel that emotional connection and wants to be friends.

Time to focus on my dates for this week.

Appreciate the feedback guys.

Did you talk to her on the phone or text or what?

What happened?

 

[dude99]

Date 1: We went out for drinks. Kept it light, casual, fun and flirty. Lots of joking around and touching. Texted me same night saying had a fun night and if i was ok. Replied back and told her i would hit her up in a few weeks since she mentioned being busy the next few weeks. (was actually being polite and had no real intention of hitting her up). She texted me the next day saying that she was available the upcoming weekend. Flirted/joked and setup next date.

Date 2: Drinks, movie, more drinks, madeout. Date was light, casual, fun and flirty just like the first date. Lots of touching, caressing and madeout in the end.

The next day she texted me asking what I was doing tonight. Told her I had some errands to run but might be available after 10pm (hoping we just meet at my place or hers since it would be later in the evening). She texted me later that night

Her: Hey i'm home but I'm kind of tired...
Me: It's all good. Get some rest and we'll kick it later this week
Her: I really wanna see u tonight though. Idk why...
Me: Then i'll be over in a bit.
Her: Wait..my place is a mess. Wat r we gonna do? I don't have a TV...
Me: Don't need one. I have plenty of ideas
Her: Oh? Don't get any ideas. No funny business!!
Me: Lol. I'll see u in a bit

So I get to her place. Offers me a beer and we lay in her bed cuddling and talking about our day. She has her head on my shoulders both enjoying the moment with lots of kino. Out of nowhere she says "Would it be ok if we just became friends? I still don't know how I feel about you. You're weird...I'm so confused...I don't really feel a connection. You seem like a playboy. You're always joking around, never really serious about anything, always flirty and sexual and at the same time you're really quiet. I can't get a read on you're personality." At this point I immediately turn her head to me and started making out and eventually pushed me away. We cuddled again and madeout while trying to escalate but pushed me away again and turned her back. Eventually we cuddled again and she started to fall asleep while stroking my arm and at this point I'm confused as f*&k. A few minutes later she asks "what are you thinking?". I just reply with "I dunno, but I'm gonna head out. I gotta be up early. Night." Gave her a kiss and left. So confused while driving home.

The next day she texted me "are you ok?" and I replied "of course". Looking back it seems like she was seeking a more deep emotional connection which i was unable to provide. I admit that I do have a problem with opening up and getting into deeper/serious convos for the first couple of dates.

Not gonna lie. I kinda developed some feels in the process. I can't get that night in her bed out of my mind and it's been bothering mainly due to the fact that I was unable to seal the deal. It's been 5 days since that last text. Not sure where I should go from here. I know she's attracted to me physically but def not yet emotionally. May be too late though.


Haven't spoken in 5 days so I guess its NC, next her and move on to next plate?

Next.

If you talk to her and she says lets just be friends you reply with "sure sounds good. I"m glad it wasn't just me. I didn't see a relationship in our future either."

Then you go ghost. Her hampster wheel will spin and spin.

 

[hotsauce1295]

Did you talk to her on the phone or text or what?

What happened?

Texted her.

Me: Hey watsup. Lets go grab a drink this week before you leave town for the holiday weekend.
Her: Hi! I'd like that. But I just want to make it clear that I don't feel that way. We can still hangout as friends right?
Me: Fair enough. Seems as though were not on the same page. But I wish u all the best.

 

[Trump]

Texted her.

Me: Hey watsup. Lets go grab a drink this week before you leave town for the holiday weekend.
Her: Hi! I'd like that. But I just want to make it clear that I don't feel that way. We can still hangout as friends right?

We can hangout as whatever you like. Pick you
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Me: Fair enough. Seems as though were not on the same page. But I wish u all the best.

Bro why did you cut it off? What if when you meet you are so smooth she wants to sleep with you?

Get the meeting face to face and then charm her. Man you guys are all or nothing. Brutal.

 

[marmel75]

We can hangout as whatever you like. Pick you
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Bro why did you cut it off? What if when you meet you are so smooth she wants to sleep with you?

Get the meeting face to face and then charm her. Man you guys are all or nothing. Brutal.

I tend to agree with this...her words are meaningless...what happens when you are with her is what counts

 

[hotsauce1295]

We can hangout as whatever you like. Pick you
up 7.



Bro why did you cut it off? What if when you meet you are so smooth she wants to sleep with you?

Get the meeting face to face and then charm her. Man you guys are all or nothing. Brutal.

I tend to agree with this...her words are meaningless...what happens when you are with her is what counts

Damn. I messed up