Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It was started by me, saying she was ****ed up - it's not possible she was seeing someone else, because she was on vacation at the same time with her parents. Also, it's not something that she does - I can assure you of this.Last Man Standing said:This is a classic "break-up" - dude is gone for a few weeks he comes back - a petty argument ensues she then over-reacts and blows it out of proportion - blames it on dude and calls him "selfish" - she then claims "I need space" - dude then apologizes profusely to no avail - why to no avail? Because she has been seeing another dude for the past few weeks/months and has pre-planned the outcome and needed a pretext to blame the dude for her leaving!!! This is a classic run of the mill exit strategy scenario!!!
What was the initial argument about? You never told us.
Did you have good reason to say such?? If so, then you should not have been with her if you thought so lowly of her! If you stated such without cause then maybe she tired of you and left for good reason!absolutealex said:It was started by me, saying she was ****ed up - it's not possible she was seeing someone else, because she was on vacation at the same time with her parents. Also, it's not something that she does - I can assure you of this.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yeah, anything is possible but I don't believe that was the case this time.Last Man Standing said:...
Yes, it is possible for her to have been with another dude -- it happens millions of times everyday -- just because you are not aware of it doesn't make it so!!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Alright, but this isn't really news. Women will do this type of thing to get a reaction (remember, they enjoy the rush they get from drama). Either you are going to fall prey to her web or you are going to go about your business, it's your call.absolutealex said:okay, I am almost certain now - she is playing games with me. I know this shouldn't even bother me, but on her AIM it says "getting a tattoo tomorrow!" During our relationship, she always knew I hated them and would joke around about getting one. The way I see it, is if you really wanted to get one - you wouldn't announce it to the world, you'd just do it.
eh she told me she wanted to meet tomorrow 2 nights ago, I figure it's going to be brought up in the meeting. I thought I'd say something along these lines, "I'd hate to see you ruin that beautiful body of yours, but it's really your decision and not mine, but if you must [recommend tattoos here]."Francisco d'Anconia said:Alright, but this isn't really news. Women will do this type of thing to get a reaction (remember, they enjoy the rush they get from drama). Either you are going to fall prey to her web or you are going to go about your business, it's your call.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Is the tatoo that bad?absolutealex said:eh she told me she wanted to meet tomorrow 2 nights ago, I figure it's going to be brought up in the meeting. I thought I'd say something along these lines, "I'd hate to see you ruin that beautiful body of yours, but it's really your decision and not mine, but if you must [recommend tattoos here]."