You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
It was started by me, saying she was ****ed up - it's not possible she was seeing someone else, because she was on vacation at the same time with her parents. Also, it's not something that she does - I can assure you of this.Last Man Standing said:This is a classic "break-up" - dude is gone for a few weeks he comes back - a petty argument ensues she then over-reacts and blows it out of proportion - blames it on dude and calls him "selfish" - she then claims "I need space" - dude then apologizes profusely to no avail - why to no avail? Because she has been seeing another dude for the past few weeks/months and has pre-planned the outcome and needed a pretext to blame the dude for her leaving!!! This is a classic run of the mill exit strategy scenario!!!
What was the initial argument about? You never told us.
Did you have good reason to say such?? If so, then you should not have been with her if you thought so lowly of her! If you stated such without cause then maybe she tired of you and left for good reason!absolutealex said:It was started by me, saying she was ****ed up - it's not possible she was seeing someone else, because she was on vacation at the same time with her parents. Also, it's not something that she does - I can assure you of this.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah, anything is possible but I don't believe that was the case this time.Last Man Standing said:...
Yes, it is possible for her to have been with another dude -- it happens millions of times everyday -- just because you are not aware of it doesn't make it so!!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Alright, but this isn't really news. Women will do this type of thing to get a reaction (remember, they enjoy the rush they get from drama). Either you are going to fall prey to her web or you are going to go about your business, it's your call.absolutealex said:okay, I am almost certain now - she is playing games with me. I know this shouldn't even bother me, but on her AIM it says "getting a tattoo tomorrow!" During our relationship, she always knew I hated them and would joke around about getting one. The way I see it, is if you really wanted to get one - you wouldn't announce it to the world, you'd just do it.
eh she told me she wanted to meet tomorrow 2 nights ago, I figure it's going to be brought up in the meeting. I thought I'd say something along these lines, "I'd hate to see you ruin that beautiful body of yours, but it's really your decision and not mine, but if you must [recommend tattoos here]."Francisco d'Anconia said:Alright, but this isn't really news. Women will do this type of thing to get a reaction (remember, they enjoy the rush they get from drama). Either you are going to fall prey to her web or you are going to go about your business, it's your call.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Is the tatoo that bad?absolutealex said:eh she told me she wanted to meet tomorrow 2 nights ago, I figure it's going to be brought up in the meeting. I thought I'd say something along these lines, "I'd hate to see you ruin that beautiful body of yours, but it's really your decision and not mine, but if you must [recommend tattoos here]."