I got dumped today. I o.k. with it. My plan is to love my life for the adventure it is. I am going to talk to new girls and keep it light. I will focus more on just myself day in and day out. I am sharing with everyone because I really want to over-react right now but I know a Don Juan wouldn't react like a child right now. I am going to focus on taking it easy on myself and just think about the way a Don Juan would. A Don Juan would enjoy a beautiful night with a cigar and be thankful for the time on this earth knowing that there are tons of people getting run over by tanks or starving. Being a Don Juan means enjoying your life with or without girls. So tonight I am going easy on myself. Tomorrow I am going to work on my career and keep going to the gym. My clothes game needs work as well. Thanks to lots of people on this site I don't have to be crushed from this situation and I will get better.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Got Dumped.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
El Payaso
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That sucks, bro. Just focus your anger on more productive things like you said. Instead of thinking of the good times in the relationship. Think of all the negative sources of the person. For example, she always talked loudly on the phone or had dirty hygiene. It will help you get over get even faster. Good luck.
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As others have said, great mentality. I'm actually in a similar boat right now and it sucks, but that's life man. Just gotta stay positive and move on.Demonpenz said:
Best of luck!
narcissist
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Repped for having a secure head on your shoulders.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.