So ive hung out with this chick that I like a few times. She is great, like perfect girlfriend material which is what im looking for this winter. The other night I hooked up with her for the first time, made out, ran the passes, she gave me head, it was all good. She was kinda drunk the night it happened b ut she deffinately knew what she was doing. We kissed when i took her home the next day. Also this chick is not one to go hooking up with alot of guys she is a really good girl (shes not a slut), I was surprised that she went so far with me. Anyway shes smoking hot and I want to ask her out but I havent even talk, seen, or heard from her since sunday - the day I dropped her off. I know its only been a couple of days but I thought she would call me or something? Do u guys think I should call her? Im thinking she must like me because she gave me head haha. do u think it would be safe if I took her out this weekend and asked her out? or maybe it was just a one night thing and she regrets it... hopefully not, but damn i want her to call me... also I dont have oneitis i got plenty of chicks to hop to if this one doesnt work out... so what do u guys think... thanks for any help with my situation
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
got dates, got dome, dont got the girl... yet?
- Thread starter theNEWDJ
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
TheVirtualMind
Master Don Juan
Sunday, as in, yesterday? If so...Chill the hell out, you are sounding like a girl.
"Like, omg, she hasn't called!"
She'll come around sometime, just freaking relax man.
"Like, omg, she hasn't called!"
She'll come around sometime, just freaking relax man.
PumpingIron13
Don Juan
i would give her a call tomorrow and just try to be cool whatever uve been doing is working out fine for u
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.