GoDJ thatsmyDJ
Don Juan
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Possibly the best post I’ve read. I know everything you say is dead-on. I will say that, probably almost verbatim and post the results.You need to grab her by the collar (figuratively) and knock some sense into her.
I would tell her, "Now listen... men tend to not talk extensively about bad moments. That's how we are. We don't dwell... we overcome. Now you make a decision. If you can't get over it, then go. You will be doing me a favor if that's how you feel. You need to stop this nonsense, get off your high horse, and decide to leave or stay. I will not maintain communication with you if you decide to leave. If you decide to stay, I'll decide whether or not it is good for me to stay. Make your choice. Next time I hear from you, I want it to be your decision."
Script successfully flipped. Either that will knock her out of her little pity party, or she will leave. Either way, resolution has been achieved. No man should live in twilight, not knowing what's going on with a woman.
I can tell you though, that she is a baby and emotionally unstable. That means similar things are likely to surface in the future should you both decide to continue. Put your foot down and do not accept this nonsense.
How dare she put you in this position?
Handle your business.
Just needed a kick in the ass, because in all honesty. I actually DID want to marry this girl, but now I have real concerns. Her emotional maturity isn’t good. Sucks, because she was good enough in all the other departments for me to overlook the warning signs—but they were there. She DEFINITELY monkey branched from her ex to me. Didn’t know me before they broke up but latched onto me immediately. I told her she wasn’t ready and she needed to wait. I’ll never forget the look on her face. The way guys fall all over her, pretty sure she had never been in that position in her life. Was telling me she loved me within a month. Told me she wanted to marry me with two. Told me she wanted to have my kids in three. Started sending me pics of rings around the same time. But I really held the frame that I didn’t need anyone and was happy with myself and my own life until about 2 weeks ago when I broke down.
I’m gonna hit her with the atom smasher special and see what happens. In all honesty, I think it’s too late, at least for now. I should’ve hit her with that immediately but now it’s been a few weeks and I think that may have worked much better at in earlier point in this absurd situation.