You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm going to guess you suggested meeting up on Saturday? She didn't pull the date out of the air.HappyHarryHardon said:
" what time is good for you?" - i like that, she's giving me all the control."lol..UR JUST THE WORST KIND OF WUSS I KNOW. now jerks like me, we get netted everytime.HappyHarryHardon said:actually she suggested saturday. this will be our second date... anyway, i replied back saying "for sure, lets go to an arcade and shoot some hoops, then see a movie
she replied "sounds good
now i was busy with another girl at my place and i replied like 3 hours later "just come by my place at 7pm and we'll take it from there."
and she replied: "ok then i'll see you on saturday
my plan is to get her to chill out in my room with some nice music pumped up, give her a lil massage (i use to do massage therapy) and put in some kisses and fool around for 30 mins then head out. just to loosen her up.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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