"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I knew this girl a few years ago she was in a serious LTR and we were just friends. She is hot, tall, thin, and pretty. At least a HB 8.

Well we lost contact for a couple years and I emailed her and she let me know it's "over' with her ex and she seemed happy to hear from me. She even said she tried to call me a couple weeks ago. I've been flirting with her the last few days and we're going out this weekend.

I always wanted to get with her but never had the chance until now!
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)

I get it now.. you mean the b'days she's missed over the years right? LOL, not bad.
 

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I don't get it.
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
 

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She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.

Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
 

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Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.

yeah... better to leave her hanging at this point... it's gonna be a good weekend.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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frannie meant, make up a FAKE incident, and make her think she forgot it. Do this in person, so she can get slightly freaked out, as you act upset and hurt. She will most likely put her hands on you. ;) Then slowly make it obvious (maybe elaborate on the supposed incident, make it over the top) til she realizes you have been yanking her chain. THEN you can confess that your Bday is really in July, or whatever.

But tell her that she DID miss that one...
 
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