"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I knew this girl a few years ago she was in a serious LTR and we were just friends. She is hot, tall, thin, and pretty. At least a HB 8.

Well we lost contact for a couple years and I emailed her and she let me know it's "over' with her ex and she seemed happy to hear from me. She even said she tried to call me a couple weeks ago. I've been flirting with her the last few days and we're going out this weekend.

I always wanted to get with her but never had the chance until now!
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)

I get it now.. you mean the b'days she's missed over the years right? LOL, not bad.
 

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I don't get it.
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
 

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She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.

Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
 

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Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.

yeah... better to leave her hanging at this point... it's gonna be a good weekend.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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frannie meant, make up a FAKE incident, and make her think she forgot it. Do this in person, so she can get slightly freaked out, as you act upset and hurt. She will most likely put her hands on you. ;) Then slowly make it obvious (maybe elaborate on the supposed incident, make it over the top) til she realizes you have been yanking her chain. THEN you can confess that your Bday is really in July, or whatever.

But tell her that she DID miss that one...
 
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