"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I knew this girl a few years ago she was in a serious LTR and we were just friends. She is hot, tall, thin, and pretty. At least a HB 8.

Well we lost contact for a couple years and I emailed her and she let me know it's "over' with her ex and she seemed happy to hear from me. She even said she tried to call me a couple weeks ago. I've been flirting with her the last few days and we're going out this weekend.

I always wanted to get with her but never had the chance until now!
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Tell her to give you something for your birthday. ;)

I get it now.. you mean the b'days she's missed over the years right? LOL, not bad.
 

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I don't get it.
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And neither will she. She'll freak out thinking that she missed it and you expected something from her (women are notorious for doing this when they hook up with you from our of the past). The thing is that it'll bring up a good memories from the past. That'll help bypass the awkward "stranger" type feeling that would pop up. The key is to get her past rapport, past comfort and right back into the trust stage where you guys left of. Now once she trusts you again it'll all be on you.
She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
 

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She is now asking me "when is my birthday" LOL how would you reply to that? You got me into this buddy ...
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Whaddya mean 'When's my birthday???' Who are you trying to kid? C'mon, you can do better than that!..." Then make up some story about something else she supposedly forgot when you were friends earlier. Try to make her think that you are telling the truth and she really had forgotten. Best to do this someplace where you can play up acting surprised that she doesn't remember; plus you can never have too much fun together for kino.

Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
 

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Well we're doing this all through email but it's working she keeps asking me "when is my bday".. then I reminisced about a time we spent and told her she "probably forgot that too" and she just said "I'll always remember that day!"

Not looking too bad... not sure how to play off the bday thing at this point, though!
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Well, stop wasting all the reminiscing so on email. All of this worthwhile banter is better used face to face. Just give her tidbits as an appetizer and leave the main course for when you get together.

yeah... better to leave her hanging at this point... it's gonna be a good weekend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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frannie meant, make up a FAKE incident, and make her think she forgot it. Do this in person, so she can get slightly freaked out, as you act upset and hurt. She will most likely put her hands on you. ;) Then slowly make it obvious (maybe elaborate on the supposed incident, make it over the top) til she realizes you have been yanking her chain. THEN you can confess that your Bday is really in July, or whatever.

But tell her that she DID miss that one...
 
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