"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Got a date planned and in a ****ty mood

StevenR

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I am supposed to meet this chick off of match in about a half hour and I am in a really crappy mood about stuff today. I don't really feel like meeting her and probably wouldn't be much fun today. I think she may be fat anyway, she seems almost too into me and she doesn't have any body pics. I just don't feel like meeting her for dinner. Do any of you get like this, or is is it just me? Then I have tentative coffee dates lined up all week and I cannot keep track of all the women I am supposed to call. This is getting in the way of things I need to get done and I really don't feel like meeting them at the moment. None of them are exactly supermodels, they are okay looking, most of them are a bit older or single moms. Basically I got into taking what I can get from that service, but for the most part the really hot, desirable women there seem to be out of my reach. A few may exchange a couple emails but then disappear.

I am mostly in a crappy mood because I quit my job to pursue my photography and that isn't doing too well. My print and stock sales have been slower than previous months even though it is coming on to Christmas season. Then to add insult to injury the wedding I had planned to shoot next week, which I would have made $1800, has been canceled. That is a major blow, yeah, my parents may have money but I feel like a complete loser compared to my dad right now. I don't think chicks deserve to be caught up in my problems. Well, time to get ready for the date I don't feel like going on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jitterbug

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I went on a date like that recently. I was in a crappy mood, very stressed after a long week at work, and couldn't give a damn about the girl having fun. I actually wanted to piss her off to make it a bad date. Yet she was all over me. Silly woman.

I wouldn't say "have fun", but go for the experience. It might make a good story afterwards. :D
 

Forty0ztoFreedom

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I was in a lethargic, "who cares about anything" kind of existential mood before a date recently . .

The texts and calls have stopped.
 

StevenR

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She was a no show, that makes 2 for 2 since the weekend.
 

classy broadside

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Oh well, just a temporary setback. Relax. We all have our whole lives ahead of us. No need to get myopic about girls (the most fickle things in the universe). There'll always be more.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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