"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Got a date planned and in a ****ty mood

StevenR

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I am supposed to meet this chick off of match in about a half hour and I am in a really crappy mood about stuff today. I don't really feel like meeting her and probably wouldn't be much fun today. I think she may be fat anyway, she seems almost too into me and she doesn't have any body pics. I just don't feel like meeting her for dinner. Do any of you get like this, or is is it just me? Then I have tentative coffee dates lined up all week and I cannot keep track of all the women I am supposed to call. This is getting in the way of things I need to get done and I really don't feel like meeting them at the moment. None of them are exactly supermodels, they are okay looking, most of them are a bit older or single moms. Basically I got into taking what I can get from that service, but for the most part the really hot, desirable women there seem to be out of my reach. A few may exchange a couple emails but then disappear.

I am mostly in a crappy mood because I quit my job to pursue my photography and that isn't doing too well. My print and stock sales have been slower than previous months even though it is coming on to Christmas season. Then to add insult to injury the wedding I had planned to shoot next week, which I would have made $1800, has been canceled. That is a major blow, yeah, my parents may have money but I feel like a complete loser compared to my dad right now. I don't think chicks deserve to be caught up in my problems. Well, time to get ready for the date I don't feel like going on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jitterbug

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I went on a date like that recently. I was in a crappy mood, very stressed after a long week at work, and couldn't give a damn about the girl having fun. I actually wanted to piss her off to make it a bad date. Yet she was all over me. Silly woman.

I wouldn't say "have fun", but go for the experience. It might make a good story afterwards. :D
 

Forty0ztoFreedom

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I was in a lethargic, "who cares about anything" kind of existential mood before a date recently . .

The texts and calls have stopped.
 

StevenR

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She was a no show, that makes 2 for 2 since the weekend.
 

classy broadside

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Oh well, just a temporary setback. Relax. We all have our whole lives ahead of us. No need to get myopic about girls (the most fickle things in the universe). There'll always be more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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