She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Nah, I'm sure it was the guy's fault. She sounds sweet. Congrats, man.Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
....you met her on POF, right?Ever Google your prospective dates name and saw mugshots of her on public record? LOL. Typically its either domestic abuse or DUI's
Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
if it's not a violent crime and doesn't represent a mental/personality issue, then who cares?Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
why would she want to talk about that? lord knows I wouldn't want to talk about something like that.I did have a girl I dated that was getting a house foreclosed on. I tried to get her to open up about it, but didn't tell her all that I knew. She kept telling me she was selling her house and getting a different one because she didn't like the one she had. lol. BS. Eventually, I said "hey, its obvious you are full of ****. I tried to get you to open up but I know more than I led on and you are a liar". I ended the relationship right there. I put her to the test and she lied. If she hid details like that, then she will hide even smaller details that might directly effect me. I don't need people like that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
that's what women are for fam.sex sex sex sex sex
Jesus....
Serious question?Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
Because its shows several things about ones character.why would she want to talk about that? lord knows I wouldn't want to talk about something like that.
how would her house foreclosing be your problem?