"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Googled woman's name, found Mugshots

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Ever Google your prospective dates name and saw mugshots of her on public record? LOL. Typically its either domestic abuse or DUI's

Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Duke

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Yes I always do this! My last girlfriend had a public indecency charge several years back so I just kept that information to myself. One night we were joking around about going to jail so I used that as the opportune time to see how forthcoming she would be. She told me the entire story and it was actually something that could of happened to anybody that likes to have sechs in public!

I've dated another with a DUI, and 2 others with domestics. The only one that ended up being a bad deal was one of the girls with a domestic charge.

I say just keep an open mind, nobody is perfect, and people do stupid things. But don't be blind to it all either. And definitely don't tell them you know about their charge, put them in a situation to be honest with you and see how forthcoming they are.

I did have a girl I dated that was getting a house foreclosed on. I tried to get her to open up about it, but didn't tell her all that I knew. She kept telling me she was selling her house and getting a different one because she didn't like the one she had. lol. BS. Eventually, I said "hey, its obvious you are full of ****. I tried to get you to open up but I know more than I led on and you are a liar". I ended the relationship right there. I put her to the test and she lied. If she hid details like that, then she will hide even smaller details that might directly effect me. I don't need people like that.
 
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where do you find all this info? I went to that findmugshots website and its worthless. Id like to see my own mugshot (street racing) and this girl I am talking to currently told me she was like 16-17 and drunk, led police on a chase that ended with them pitting her car or something :rofl:
 
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Depends on what the crime was, if she told you the truth like @Howiestern mentioned and what her behavior/attitude is like.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she's attractive, tolerable to be around, and has good sex, what difference does it make?
 
devilkingx2

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ThisNThat said:
Would they be entirely dealbreakers?
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if it's not a violent crime and doesn't represent a mental/personality issue, then who cares?

if she's a drunk that's one thing, if she's a kleptomaniac that's one thing, if she's some sort of weird pervert that's one thing

but if she just made a mistake as a teenager or something who cares

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I did have a girl I dated that was getting a house foreclosed on. I tried to get her to open up about it, but didn't tell her all that I knew. She kept telling me she was selling her house and getting a different one because she didn't like the one she had. lol. BS. Eventually, I said "hey, its obvious you are full of ****. I tried to get you to open up but I know more than I led on and you are a liar". I ended the relationship right there. I put her to the test and she lied. If she hid details like that, then she will hide even smaller details that might directly effect me. I don't need people like that.
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why would she want to talk about that? lord knows I wouldn't want to talk about something like that.

how would her house foreclosing be your problem?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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She is used to handcuffs. Make her feel at home by cuffing her, bending her over and giving her a good a ss f ucking.
 
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devilkingx2 said:
why would she want to talk about that? lord knows I wouldn't want to talk about something like that.

how would her house foreclosing be your problem?
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Because its shows several things about ones character.
1. You believe others should mop up your financial mess.
2. You aren't very responsible.
3. You are hiding details about your past by not being forthcoming.
4. You don't mind ruining your credit.

These same traits will appear in other areas of that persons life. I don't care to associate with those types of people and consider them losers.
 
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