"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Goodbye text - is there enough indifference?

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She writes:

I am very sorry you feel that way. Clearly as that is how you view things this is for the best. I must admit since we have stopped talking I feel a weight is off my shoulders and like I can relax. I do hope you do well in your future and find happiness. I also hope that you are well and have good health as from the things you have mentioned recently it must be quite a concern. I am going to delete your contact details now. I would appreciate it if you did the same.

I write:

Consider it already done
Good luck (her name), I hope you find in life the success you're looking for.
No hard feelings, it was a rollercoaster ride but a very interesting one. x


Any comments anyone?
Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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marmel75

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I'd be interested in knowing what the texts were leading up to that long text she sent...
 

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The OP is asking an entire forum whether he doesn't care enough?
 

grayclif

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The OP is asking an entire forum whether he doesn't care enough?
It means he cares too much. But its hard not to after a breakup. I really hope he doesn't respond to her last attempt at grabbing his attention and telling him what to do.
 

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It means he cares too much. But its hard not to after a breakup. I really hope he doesn't respond to her last attempt at grabbing his attention and telling him what to do.
Too late mate! I'd already done it by then.

Yeah I get the principle, if you have to ask the question then you aren't detached from her.
The ideal position would be that I don't give a f**k what she thinks or whether I ever hear from her again
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Too late mate! I'd already done it by then.

Yeah I get the principle, if you have to ask the question then you aren't detached from her.
The ideal position would be that I don't give a f**k what she thinks or whether I ever hear from her again

So what did you do/say? How did it play out...
 

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Here, silence is either indifference or butthurt.

I'll just delete her from all platforms and move on because I know I can do better.
 

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just say what you want...i dont get overanalyzing...whatever you say won't really have much of a consequence so who cares
 

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"Thanks. We are both good people just not a good fit for each other. I wish you the best. Take care."
 

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"Thanks. We are both good people just not a good fit for each other. I wish you the best. Take care."
This is too non-misogynistic for SS nowadays but I'd respond the same way. Too many people make relationships too personal when they don't work out instead of taking a step back and seeing whether you were ever truly compatible or not.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is too non-misogynistic for SS nowadays but I'd respond the same way. Too many people make relationships too personal when they don't work out instead of taking a step back and seeing whether you were ever truly compatible or not.
Yep, hard for her to dispute it and it lets her know that you aren't bitter and/or upset about it and will be fine. If i am ending a relationship I try and make these my last words to her before I vanish...

You could even use it if she dumps you first..

"Yeah I have been doing some thinking and was thinking that we may not be a good long term fit. So this will be for the best. It's been fun though, you are a good person, and I wish you well.. Take care."
 

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This is too non-misogynistic for SS nowadays but I'd respond the same way. Too many people make relationships too personal when they don't work out instead of taking a step back and seeing whether you were ever truly compatible or not.
Sure not every relationship will work out. Whatever the case, just move on. She probably cried for about 7 minutes and got hooked up with the 4th guy in her Galaxy to be thinking about you anyway.

Hell, she won't care if you're bitter or not. Just remember that you can always do better than her.
 
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