I've listened to Darius but he can be a bit negative
I can agree with that. I think 80% of what I’ve heard is on point, but there is an annoyance he conveys at times, and some parts which I discount. He probably started his own journey in this realm so as to work through some of his personal burns and scars.
The one piece of advice I totally disagree with is a video where he asks the woman to look at her phone for three hours. And if she denies him then that apparently means she is cheating or has something to hide. And you should GTFO.
If anyone asked me that, I would straight up deny them In every way. It communicates lack of boundaries and respect. Not because I have something to hide, but for the mere fact personal privacy is sacred and it just communicates insecurity and nothing else. My phone is for me and no one else. Because a person can give you their phone and still be cheating. It proves nothing.
If a woman dumped a guy after that, I would 100% side with her, or him, if she kept pushing to see his phone.
My ex asked me this subsequent to our breakup (we were playing with mayyybe trying things again) and I told her that will never happen. She got all flustered and began to accuse me of all the things, because of insecurity or even projection. But the principle issue for me was privacy and boundaries.
Who ever is asking to see another’s personal world which isn’t given freely of their own accord just seeks control by a forceful means. And trying to force you in to their frame of comfort. And to boot more, even if she/he gives over the phone, shortly after they will at some point feel violated, at least in a minor degree as they know it’s a boundary violation. I would personally rather dismiss someone meaningful to me, than to resent myself of being pushed around.
As all The main point is communicating is: “I don’t believe you or trust you anymore”. So therefore one key cornerstone of the relationship is already obliterated and compromised. And from that point forward it’s one person having to dig themselves out of a hole or play to that persons insecurity which creates a toxic dynamic. As you can probably no longer ‘just be’