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Check out 'Darius M' on YouTube. He has good insight for anyone who enjoys listening to gender dynamics in attraction and purpose. He's direct and doesn't beat around the bush, from the content I have watched. Figured I would share due to the trajectories people want here. Enjoy.

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I've listened to Darius but he can be a bit negative - I prefer Locario Fan. I admire the knowledge and patience he has with women. Myron Gaines is also good. What I like about these guys is that they have a lot of experience and they can analyze any situation quickly to know exactly what's going on. Having said that, everyone comes at this with their own experience based on their own advantages and the dating culture where they're from. What works in New York might not work so well in Istanbul, for example.
 

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I've listened to Darius but he can be a bit negative
I can agree with that. I think 80% of what I’ve heard is on point, but there is an annoyance he conveys at times, and some parts which I discount. He probably started his own journey in this realm so as to work through some of his personal burns and scars.

The one piece of advice I totally disagree with is a video where he asks the woman to look at her phone for three hours. And if she denies him then that apparently means she is cheating or has something to hide. And you should GTFO.
If anyone asked me that, I would straight up deny them In every way. It communicates lack of boundaries and respect. Not because I have something to hide, but for the mere fact personal privacy is sacred and it just communicates insecurity and nothing else. My phone is for me and no one else. Because a person can give you their phone and still be cheating. It proves nothing.

If a woman dumped a guy after that, I would 100% side with her, or him, if she kept pushing to see his phone.
My ex asked me this subsequent to our breakup (we were playing with mayyybe trying things again) and I told her that will never happen. She got all flustered and began to accuse me of all the things, because of insecurity or even projection. But the principle issue for me was privacy and boundaries.

Who ever is asking to see another’s personal world which isn’t given freely of their own accord just seeks control by a forceful means. And trying to force you in to their frame of comfort. And to boot more, even if she/he gives over the phone, shortly after they will at some point feel violated, at least in a minor degree as they know it’s a boundary violation. I would personally rather dismiss someone meaningful to me, than to resent myself of being pushed around.

As all The main point is communicating is: “I don’t believe you or trust you anymore”. So therefore one key cornerstone of the relationship is already obliterated and compromised. And from that point forward it’s one person having to dig themselves out of a hole or play to that persons insecurity which creates a toxic dynamic. As you can probably no longer ‘just be’
 

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I've listened to Darius but he can be a bit negative - I prefer Locario Fan. I admire the knowledge and patience he has with women. Myron Gaines is also good. What I like about these guys is that they have a lot of experience and they can analyze any situation quickly to know exactly what's going on. Having said that, everyone comes at this with their own experience based on their own advantages and the dating culture where they're from. What works in New York might not work so well in Istanbul, for example.
Bat Darius is hardly negative. To be honest lately Rollo and the bunch...Rian Stone and Rich cooper are negative as hell.
Constantly in arguments and defending their positions. Their Twitter accounts tell all in that area.
Nit picking nancy's they are starting to become.
And not to mention Rollo re tweeting Robert the bandanna body builder tool. Yea his gig is funny the first couple of times but the dude needs a good dose of the "earth is going to eat you too"

Ask Arnold Schwarzenegger how his biceps are doing these days....
 

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The one piece of advice I totally disagree with is a video where he asks the woman to look at her phone for three hours. And if she denies him then that apparently means she is cheating
Huh???
 

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Not because I have something to hide, but for the mere fact personal privacy is sacred and it just communicates insecurity and nothing else.
Really? Let me give you some GREAT advice.

NEVER EVER enter and LTR with a women you can't check her text messages via IT provider. Ever.
If you wanna captain blanket trust your girl you GO RIGHT ahead because if she is worth a fck on the eyes you BETTER BE watchin her phone...lol clowns

And if this is toooo -RP for you. Just spin plates and dont even think of an LTR in this market....

Darius is 100% fcking correct in this gentlemen.
TRUST IS EARNED....
its not freeware on the fcking web
 

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Really? Let me give you some GREAT advice.

NEVER EVER enter and LTR with a women you can't check her text messages via IT provider. Ever.
If you wanna captain blanket trust your girl you GO RIGHT ahead because if she is worth a fck on the eyes you BETTER BE watchin her phone...lol clowns

And if this is toooo -RP for you. Just spin plates and dont even think of an LTR in this market....

Darius is 100% fcking correct in this gentlemen.
TRUST IS EARNED....
its not freeware on the fcking web
It’s not too red pill for me. I don’t know how you jump to that?

It is in fact crossing boundaries and going in to ones privacy. They don’t owe you that because a guy feels entitled. No one is entitled to any sort of cyber viewing if it’s not openly given. That’s actually a level and factor in trust. Asking a woman to see her phone in a random circumstance Because one is feeling insecure is just messed up, to me.

If she has behaviours which are shifty which put you on edge, she obviously isn’t compatible or simply doesn’t care about how you feel. I today, don’t need to ask to see her texts to confirm her somewhat clear disinterest.

If you’re curious if she’s talking to other men, ask her. But if you have to ask clearly you want the relationship more than she does. And if it comes out that she was in fact talking to men when you asked her, she lied. And liars of certain circumstances should be dismissed, especially in the notes context.

If she says yes she is talking to others, and you wanted exclusivity, back off and go spin plates, and continue to back off until she signals higher interest and commitment (if ever).
If you’re already together and you know she’s actively seeking attention, you step out or step back out of exclusivity. Because she wasn’t worthy of your time and attention to greater extent.
Asking to see her phone is straight-up possessive. It’s not some transcended level of red pill. That’s just a justification for snooping and watching your back, but it’s rooted in selfishness and fear.
 
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It’s not too red pill for me. I don’t know how you jump to that?

It is in fact crossing boundaries and going in to ones privacy. They don’t owe you that because a guy feels entitled. No one is entitled to any sort of cyber viewing if it’s not openly given. That’s actually a level and factor in trust. Asking a woman to see her phone in a random circumstance Because one is feeling insecure is just messed up, to me.

If she has behaviours which are shifty which put you on edge, she obviously isn’t compatible or simply doesn’t care about how you feel. I today, don’t need to ask to see her texts to confirm her somewhat clear disinterest.

If you’re curious if she’s talking to other men, ask her. But if you have to ask clearly you want the relationship more than she does. And if it comes out that she was in fact talking to men when you asked her, she lied. And liars of certain circumstances should be dismissed, especially in the notes context.

If she says yes she is talking to others, and you wanted exclusivity, back off and go spin plates, and continue to back off until she signals higher interest and commitment (if ever).
If you’re already together and you know she’s actively seeking attention, you step out or step back out of exclusivity. Because she wasn’t worthy of your time and attention to greater extent.
Asking to see her phone is straight-up possessive. It’s not some transcended level of red pill. That’s just a justification for snooping and watching your back, but it’s rooted in selfishness and fear.
Your kidding yourself...but by all means carry on. Let us all know how that goes for you...
 

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Asking a woman to see her phone in a random circumstance Because one is feeling insecure is just messed up, to me.
I never said that. I said if you enter into an LTR without the ability to check her messages you are already a cuck...thats what im saying.
You want to be that captain save a trust you go right on a head there fella lol

Dont say ole string didnt warn you
 

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It’s not too red pill for me. I don’t know how you jump to that?

It is in fact crossing boundaries and going in to ones privacy. They don’t owe you that because a guy feels entitled. No one is entitled to any sort of cyber viewing if it’s not openly given. That’s actually a level and factor in trust. Asking a woman to see her phone in a random circumstance Because one is feeling insecure is just messed up, to me.

If she has behaviours which are shifty which put you on edge, she obviously isn’t compatible or simply doesn’t care about how you feel. I today, don’t need to ask to see her texts to confirm her somewhat clear disinterest.

If you’re curious if she’s talking to other men, ask her. But if you have to ask clearly you want the relationship more than she does. And if it comes out that she was in fact talking to men when you asked her, she lied. And liars of certain circumstances should be dismissed, especially in the notes context.

If she says yes she is talking to others, and you wanted exclusivity, back off and go spin plates, and continue to back off until she signals higher interest and commitment (if ever).
If you’re already together and you know she’s actively seeking attention, you step out or step back out of exclusivity. Because she wasn’t worthy of your time and attention to greater extent.
Asking to see her phone is straight-up possessive. It’s not some transcended level of red pill. That’s just a justification for snooping and watching your back, but it’s rooted in selfishness and fear.
Imagine if you monitored for a month or more and you realize your wasting your time? Because she's a upstanding lady that's hard to sway. But...
 

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I never said that. I said if you enter into an LTR without the ability to check her messages you are already a cuck...thats what im saying.
You want to be that captain save a trust you go right on a head there fella lol

Dont say ole string didnt warn you
I never said you specifically said that. I’m talking towards a greater whole than your perspective. We’re talking about an idea.

I don’t think it would make you a cuck at all if you’re respecting her boundaries and not stalking her life. What makes someone a cuck is when they KNOW she is doing shady things and still continues to give her his attention and time and affections.

I don’t understand you’re push back on this. We tend to share similar views, but on this we just don’t match up. Which I don’t agree with your stance, but I can respect your choice of belief.
We’re squared.
 

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Imagine if you monitored for a month or more and you realize your wasting your time? Because she's a upstanding lady that's hard to sway. But...
As mentioned.. if you feel you have to monitor someone your intuition is already telling you she’s no good for you. No need to compromise your own morals to gain answers.

Now, If you both have an agreement to swap phones at any time because that’s what you believe relationship should be - total transparency on all fronts and all times due to previous experiences - then that’s that relationship. But it won’t be for everyone. But it has to be a two-way street. But to me that relationship is already steeped in insecurity and mistrust.
 

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I've listened to Darius but he can be a bit negative - I prefer Locario Fan. I admire the knowledge and patience he has with women. Myron Gaines is also good. What I like about these guys is that they have a lot of experience and they can analyze any situation quickly to know exactly what's going on. Having said that, everyone comes at this with their own experience based on their own advantages and the dating culture where they're from. What works in New York might not work so well in Istanbul, for example.
Darius is definitely angry RedPill and appears to be more closely aligned to MGTOW.

Getting angry about female nature/female mating strategy would have to be the biggest waste of energy for a man.

Would you get angry at a female praying mantis who bites off the head of her male lover after mating? No, because you expect it.

 

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Objective viewpoints, critical thinking and self-objectivity seem to be (unfortunately) frowned upon by many forum members. The irony is.. that a lot of members that object to such attributes, are the same ones 'claiming' to be the most successful with women.

Thanks for keeping it real.
 

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As mentioned.. if you feel you have to monitor someone your intuition is already telling you she’s no good for you. No need to compromise your own morals to gain answers.
**** went right over your head. Thats the funny part.
You dont understand womens biology nor the mating strategy of the human female brain.
Even St Paul of the bible touched on watching over the female.
Like usual your mouth is 18 ft in front of your brain and WILL bight you someday.

Men and women ARE NOT equals....fact of nature...
 

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Objective viewpoints, critical thinking and self-objectivity seem to be (unfortunately) frowned upon by many forum members. The irony is.. that a lot of members that object to such attributes, are the same ones 'claiming' to be the most successful with women.

Thanks for keeping it real.
Captain save a poster. Lol
You both are WRONG. Own it dude. The RP is bitter in the mouth and sour to the stomach. You get that part yet?
 

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flowtheory

Objective viewpoints, critical thinking and self-objectivity seem to be (unfortunately) frowned upon by many forum members. The irony is.. that a lot of members that object to such attributes, are the same ones 'claiming' to be the most successful with women.

Thanks for keeping it real.
I know. It's best to just let them run wild in their dogmatic views, as they need to believe some stale, personally unchallenged beliefs. But hey, that's where they're at, and we hold different views because of our own individual journeys. Yet, on both our paths we will still do our own respective battles. But I think it's best to choose your battles extremely wisely as Sun Tzu would suggest. Ones that may lead to greater growth, and understanding, rather than complete destruction. Asking for phones is a sure-fire way to lose a war. But a battle perceivably lost in the moment, however, framed, by not giving up your boundaries will show your counterpart decisive character and your intrinsic honor. What many - string - fail to see is that it's not about a device or a transitory belief. It's about sovereignty and wholeness. Integrity.

I think that remaining objective is critical to living a truly abundant life, for the self, whilst positively influencing others by virtue of conducting in a whole self-respecting manner. I think what string fails to see is that he would never allow a woman to rifle through his phone to keep tabs on him; as that would be 'blue-pill beta' behavior, as goes the mantra around manosphere parts. Balls in a jar. Yet, he would be justified by keeping it 'real red pill' by having her give up her autonomy based on the insecurity of future destruction, yet all the while not realizing his actions are wielding the sword which will lead to his demise of that specific endeavor and by proxy other enterprises which would soon be unraveled due to the first loss. Double standards will always lead to mayhem at one point or another.

But to each their own. His strings are just being pulled, but he plays a sad tune in this thread. It's best we have sympathy and direct our brother to higher learning by osmosis. And if not? He will learn in time. It is the greatest teacher, so they say.
 
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