technically yes I was because of replying to that guy that I learned here was called an orbiter.Where you cheating? Were you doing anything that warranted his concern. If not then shame on him. It takes awareness to not let your mind get the best of you. And that takes focusing on what she does rather then what she says. From a mans standpoint
But each time he emailed or texted I told my ex. But I get it now how very wrong all my actions were.
I have been struggling since my other ex died(who I fortunately did amends by accepting accountability, responsibility and offering my sorries) whether I should contact this ex to say my sorries and accept my accountability and responsibility.
But he was enthusiastic when I brought up the idea of no contact and I should stick to that.
One isn't supposed to do amends if it can injure the other person or yourself emotionally.
I am committed to selfimproving and I am quick to admit publicly now what I did wrong.