"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My shoe collection consists of all sneakers , such as Converse, Nike and 1 black Shoe. It's a Brockport.

Can anyone recommend me some good shoes to wear for casual fun and one for a job interview? Both should be black right? More specifially what brand name and the style its called? ty.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I try to avoid black dress shoes unless I'm going somewhere at night or going to a funeral... nice brown/oxblood/tan/burgundy/etc. shoes have so much more character, especially at a lower price point, and will actually go better with almost any color suit other than black.

However, for an accounting job interview (conservative environment), to go with your new charcoal suit that I recommended in your other thread, I'd get something black by Allen-Edmonds. You can pick them up for ~$300 at www.zappos.com, or if you're lucky a lot cheaper at Nordstrom Rack (~$150) or on eBay (as low as $20!). The nice thing about AE is you can send them back to the manufacturer to be refurbished, so the shoes last a long, long time. They're nice to begin with, too.

Check these out:
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/22513663/c/3.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/15606652/c/3.html

Bostonians are not nearly as nice (one-third the price for maybe one-fifth the shoe) but work in a pinch, particularly if you're young and just getting started. I have a captoe pair I picked up in oxblood at the Rack for $35 that look pretty good, surprisingly.

Something like these:
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/7512858/c/255.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/839/c/3.html

Generally, if you're aiming to go cheaper on a pair of dress shoes it's better to not go any more ornate than a captoe. Broguing is probably inappropriate for a job interview anyway.

More on "dress-casual" shoes later! Hope this helps.
 

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Sneakers are cool brother. I wear black sketchers, and I put shoes shine on them. That is the only pair of new shoes I got right now. I also feature a prison break outfit. Jeans, solid color or striped dress shirt, with rolled up sleaves, all the way to the middle of my upper arms, then I dont button last two or 3 buttons, dont tuck it in, and wear a black A-shirt underneath. Nice, eh? The other day I drove in $100,000 black bentley, I think I looked bad a55. I also dont wear any colgne and hairjail my hair back.


As far as shoes go, Id pick up anything I like at DSW shoes, as long as I can walk in them on carpet and tile without slipping. Sometimes you get a pair of really expensive shoes, and its like ice skating when you walk in for an interview. That really sux, try to avoid that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lol sparky, Thanks for link bro those are some awesome looking shoes!
 

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These look nice. Wondering why you pick Ferragamo at that price point though, sparky...
 
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