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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I do agree with this. I wonder if it's really being a cruel bastard though.JackPrescott said:Women are weird fukking people. They love a combination of as$holism, arrogance, aloofness, and a daring lifestyle. If I ask a woman to meet me at a lounge for a drink, she flakes. If she is already out on the town, and drunk as hell, and I am there with another woman, all of a sudden she wants me. Fukking looney toons if you ask me.
JackPrescott said:This article was interesting, but definitley written by a woman who has been fondled by a jerk and left hanging as she was falling for his ass.
Women love to be treated like dogs*hit. Theres no three ways about that. They love jerks, because we can tend to be assertive, and take control, and they seem to like that. The times in dating when I have been a "nice guy" I have instantly lost the woman sexually to another man. The other times when I have been a complete a$$hole, she has fallen for me, or at least put out.
I have tired of using romance. Flowers and poetry only work in movies starring J-Lo and Matthew Moganahey. The last woman I bought flowers for almost started running away from me, and the last woman I used some simple poetry on thought I was a crackhead.
Women are weird fukking people. They love a combination of as$holism, arrogance, aloofness, and a daring lifestyle. If I ask a woman to meet me at a lounge for a drink, she flakes. If she is already out on the town, and drunk as hell, and I am there with another woman, all of a sudden she wants me. Fukking looney toons if you ask me.
You know, I have to say I see some truth to this. I have a friend who tried the slow and steady "friendship" route to get a girl, which we all know is the worst. I cringed at some of the behavior he displayed toward her, he is probably a 5 and she's a 7.DonJaunStupidity said:If you are an 8 and you are dating a '10', (and you are an average joe from a personality perspective) chances are you will be all 'nicey' with the girl in question. However if you are a 9, and the girl is an 8, chances are you will be trying to dump the girl after you have sex with her.
And thats how 'nice guy', 'bad boy' behaviours come out.
And last, if you are a 9 and a nice guy by heart - you will get married.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No, they want someone to be their leader. There is a difference.JackPrescott said:Women love to be treated like dogs*hit. Theres no three ways about that.
JackPrescott said:7's can get 9s and 10s if dey gots enough game, and enough meat hangin' betwix dey legs, som'n you wouldnt know nuthin' bout.
Exactly. Thats the whole point.Tazman said:You know, I have to say I see some truth to this. I have a friend who tried the slow and steady "friendship" route to get a girl, which we all know is the worst. I cringed at some of the behavior he displayed toward her, he is probably a 5 and she's a 7.
However, he hooked up with a woman who is literally twice his senior (desperation) and he treats her the way a DJ should, it just comes out naturally because of his value in comparison to hers. It really is hard to change your behavior "consciously" if you feel a particular woman has more value than yourself, in general.