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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I do agree with this. I wonder if it's really being a cruel bastard though.JackPrescott said:Women are weird fukking people. They love a combination of as$holism, arrogance, aloofness, and a daring lifestyle. If I ask a woman to meet me at a lounge for a drink, she flakes. If she is already out on the town, and drunk as hell, and I am there with another woman, all of a sudden she wants me. Fukking looney toons if you ask me.
JackPrescott said:This article was interesting, but definitley written by a woman who has been fondled by a jerk and left hanging as she was falling for his ass.
Women love to be treated like dogs*hit. Theres no three ways about that. They love jerks, because we can tend to be assertive, and take control, and they seem to like that. The times in dating when I have been a "nice guy" I have instantly lost the woman sexually to another man. The other times when I have been a complete a$$hole, she has fallen for me, or at least put out.
I have tired of using romance. Flowers and poetry only work in movies starring J-Lo and Matthew Moganahey. The last woman I bought flowers for almost started running away from me, and the last woman I used some simple poetry on thought I was a crackhead.
Women are weird fukking people. They love a combination of as$holism, arrogance, aloofness, and a daring lifestyle. If I ask a woman to meet me at a lounge for a drink, she flakes. If she is already out on the town, and drunk as hell, and I am there with another woman, all of a sudden she wants me. Fukking looney toons if you ask me.
You know, I have to say I see some truth to this. I have a friend who tried the slow and steady "friendship" route to get a girl, which we all know is the worst. I cringed at some of the behavior he displayed toward her, he is probably a 5 and she's a 7.DonJaunStupidity said:If you are an 8 and you are dating a '10', (and you are an average joe from a personality perspective) chances are you will be all 'nicey' with the girl in question. However if you are a 9, and the girl is an 8, chances are you will be trying to dump the girl after you have sex with her.
And thats how 'nice guy', 'bad boy' behaviours come out.
And last, if you are a 9 and a nice guy by heart - you will get married.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
No, they want someone to be their leader. There is a difference.JackPrescott said:Women love to be treated like dogs*hit. Theres no three ways about that.
JackPrescott said:7's can get 9s and 10s if dey gots enough game, and enough meat hangin' betwix dey legs, som'n you wouldnt know nuthin' bout.
Exactly. Thats the whole point.Tazman said:You know, I have to say I see some truth to this. I have a friend who tried the slow and steady "friendship" route to get a girl, which we all know is the worst. I cringed at some of the behavior he displayed toward her, he is probably a 5 and she's a 7.
However, he hooked up with a woman who is literally twice his senior (desperation) and he treats her the way a DJ should, it just comes out naturally because of his value in comparison to hers. It really is hard to change your behavior "consciously" if you feel a particular woman has more value than yourself, in general.