"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good problem to have (2 dates the same night)

Uncharted

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So I have two dates planned for the same night.

I texted #1 for date, no response after 1.5 days.
I texted #2 for date, responds yes and "can't wait to see you" a few hours later.

Then - #1 texts "hi sorry! yes i've been thinking about you!"

Problem: I need to cancel one of them. Is there any right way to flake while maintaining her IL? I'm thinking of telling the one that took a while to text back (#2) something like "you're too slow! i already made plans! we'll have to do another time."

Technically that would be the truth anyway.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who Dares Win

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The one who toke 1.5 days to reply is either no interested in you, considering you after guy A flaked her and has a flake coefficient which is sky high.

Take the entusiastic girl with no doubt, actually there is no reason for you to even ask this question, wheter you talk about who deserves you the most or who is the surest thing.

Remember generally that an interested girl wont take too much to agree and will show happiness to see you, while an low interest girl takes time, use ****y/short lines and is very likely to flake once she got her ego boost.
 

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Interesting. She said yes though, so do I just cancel on her or tell her that I made other plans because she took so long?
 

Who Dares Win

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Uncharted said:
Interesting. She said yes though, so do I just cancel on her or tell her that I made other plans because she took so long?
If I were you I would simply cancel without giving any further explanation, first you want to make it clear that you are not eating from her hand so she is not supposed to let you wait 1.5days to reply to a text, second you own her no explanation after her sh1tty behaviour.

Also she replied "I've been thinking about you" she didnt replied "lets go somewhere glad you called", dont reward low interest and unpolite behaviours with entusiasm.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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#2 seems obvious. She's down.

But clearly you're more interested in #1 (either b/c she's hotter, she's not making things as easy or both)
 

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I wouldn't cancel, I would reschedule/suggest another night the same week. Always keep 2 in the kitty. Definitely go with #2 on the original night tho - my 2 cents.
 
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