"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Good problem to have (2 dates the same night)

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So I have two dates planned for the same night.

I texted #1 for date, no response after 1.5 days.
I texted #2 for date, responds yes and "can't wait to see you" a few hours later.

Then - #1 texts "hi sorry! yes i've been thinking about you!"

Problem: I need to cancel one of them. Is there any right way to flake while maintaining her IL? I'm thinking of telling the one that took a while to text back (#2) something like "you're too slow! i already made plans! we'll have to do another time."

Technically that would be the truth anyway.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Who Dares Win

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The one who toke 1.5 days to reply is either no interested in you, considering you after guy A flaked her and has a flake coefficient which is sky high.

Take the entusiastic girl with no doubt, actually there is no reason for you to even ask this question, wheter you talk about who deserves you the most or who is the surest thing.

Remember generally that an interested girl wont take too much to agree and will show happiness to see you, while an low interest girl takes time, use ****y/short lines and is very likely to flake once she got her ego boost.
 

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Interesting. She said yes though, so do I just cancel on her or tell her that I made other plans because she took so long?
 

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Uncharted said:
Interesting. She said yes though, so do I just cancel on her or tell her that I made other plans because she took so long?
If I were you I would simply cancel without giving any further explanation, first you want to make it clear that you are not eating from her hand so she is not supposed to let you wait 1.5days to reply to a text, second you own her no explanation after her sh1tty behaviour.

Also she replied "I've been thinking about you" she didnt replied "lets go somewhere glad you called", dont reward low interest and unpolite behaviours with entusiasm.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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#2 seems obvious. She's down.

But clearly you're more interested in #1 (either b/c she's hotter, she's not making things as easy or both)
 

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I wouldn't cancel, I would reschedule/suggest another night the same week. Always keep 2 in the kitty. Definitely go with #2 on the original night tho - my 2 cents.
 
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