"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Good looking and nice...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MascaraSnake
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
tony-montana
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MascaraSnake
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I'm a marginally good looking guy (as in I have to have the right haircut, shave, clothes, etc. if I want to have any chance of looking good). Throughout high school I had no clue how to use body language (I'd openly stare at girls I liked), sometimes went days without bathing or shaving, and had the whole drama club convinced I was the reincarnation of Jeffery Dahmer.snowdog said:
If I came back from all of that and got laid at 20, you can do it, man...I just talk to everyone and have an endlessly sarcastic sense of humor.
If you didn't get laid yet so why are you dishing out advice that being nice and good looking is the key to get laid??!! This is the kind of crap (no offence) that is being spewed to nice guys by HB's, to make AFC's feel better about themselves. Then those HB's go to a club and get picked up by a smooth talking C&F playa who takes them to the back of the alley for a BJ before taking them home.snowdog said:
C&F has many purposes that will elevate your game beyond looks.
Women like Men with confidence and the right mix of C&F will help to convey that message. It shows that you ain't afraid of her, you make her feel good in your presence and you actually have some type of personality. A good sense of humor also shows that you are a hip guy that likes to have a good time, has some intelligence and doesn't take himself too seriously.
Your looks will take you to a certain distance but combine that with a killer personality, it will take you much farther.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
chinwaggler
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If you are ****y, that doesn't mean you are arrogant or not a gentleman, it means you have a sense of humour and self-respect/belief.
Which is still a problem for me, being perceived as arrogant.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
+1The Deacon said:
We should be advocating nice behavior on SoSuave. It actually works.
Uh... dude, I didn't make the first post. So I don't know why you're talking sh*t to me now. If you read my post carefully you'll come to the conclusion that I disagree with that statement as well.DJDamage said:
EDIT: Haha, now I understand. The starter of this thread is called snowman. There's a difference in a man and a dog, dude. haha
Thanks man, I'm well on my way. Check out the link in my sig.
Oops my badsnowdog said:Uh... dude, I didn't make the first post. So I don't know why you're talking sh*t to me now. If you read my post carefully you'll come to the conclusion that I disagree with that statement as well.
EDIT: Haha, now I understand. The starter of this thread is called snowman. There's a difference in a man and a dog, dude. haha