"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Good Idea to help losing fear of goin up to girls

bebobbox

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i wouldnt ever be able to just go up to a girl and talk to her.... for instance at the mall around my house where a bunch of girls are at.

so what i did was i drove about 2 hours to see a old friend, then hit up a mall near his house that ive never seen before, and is relaly far from where i live. never gonna go there again, much less see any of those people ever again. so i started talkin to girls there... alot in one day. helped me get over my fear, now i can talk to random girls around where i live now that im not afraid anymore. and a couple days later i was at vegas and i was talkin to girls there too, thatd id never see aagain. now i can talk to any random girl anywhere

anyways, that might help some guys out, try it
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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j8snx1

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Hahaha nice tip man. Because you have the idea that you won't see those girls again, you get such a tremendous boost of confidence. It does work.

However, there are places within your area that you can use this assumption; you don't HAVE to drive 2 hours away from your home to have that level of confidence. Just go somewhere you seldomly/never go to within your neighborhood, and just unleash your DJ and get #'s. After the success, you can have a number/numbers to call and hook up dates with.

=D
 

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not the confidence. i was just afraid of like talkin to them, making myself look retarded then having to see them again.... i duno, some retarded fears... lol
 

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Originally posted by bebobbox
not the confidence. i was just afraid of like talkin to them, making myself look retarded then having to see them again.... i duno, some retarded fears... lol
Anxiety...every one has it.
 

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Everyone has had some kind of anxiety.
I find it MUCH easier to approach girls after I have done it once already on a that particular day. That first approach is the hardest. After that, I just turn into a different person it seems like, unbreakable confidence, and an enthusiasm for others that I usually never have. Of course, over time, all approaches get easier and easier.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hahaha well if you DO see those girls you hit on, just be casual about it you know? So what if they rejected you or thought you were stupid, just say hey, how are you, blah blah blah. Make a new friend if things don't work out, and you probably won't look like an @$$hole.
 

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This is a simple and pretty efficient tip for someone with social anxiety, this should be in the tips section, its better than most of the tips there haha (im talking about the "pretend you´re gay to get girls" tip haha)
 
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