"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good Idea to help losing fear of goin up to girls

bebobbox

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i wouldnt ever be able to just go up to a girl and talk to her.... for instance at the mall around my house where a bunch of girls are at.

so what i did was i drove about 2 hours to see a old friend, then hit up a mall near his house that ive never seen before, and is relaly far from where i live. never gonna go there again, much less see any of those people ever again. so i started talkin to girls there... alot in one day. helped me get over my fear, now i can talk to random girls around where i live now that im not afraid anymore. and a couple days later i was at vegas and i was talkin to girls there too, thatd id never see aagain. now i can talk to any random girl anywhere

anyways, that might help some guys out, try it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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j8snx1

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Hahaha nice tip man. Because you have the idea that you won't see those girls again, you get such a tremendous boost of confidence. It does work.

However, there are places within your area that you can use this assumption; you don't HAVE to drive 2 hours away from your home to have that level of confidence. Just go somewhere you seldomly/never go to within your neighborhood, and just unleash your DJ and get #'s. After the success, you can have a number/numbers to call and hook up dates with.

=D
 

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not the confidence. i was just afraid of like talkin to them, making myself look retarded then having to see them again.... i duno, some retarded fears... lol
 

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Originally posted by bebobbox
not the confidence. i was just afraid of like talkin to them, making myself look retarded then having to see them again.... i duno, some retarded fears... lol
Anxiety...every one has it.
 

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Everyone has had some kind of anxiety.
I find it MUCH easier to approach girls after I have done it once already on a that particular day. That first approach is the hardest. After that, I just turn into a different person it seems like, unbreakable confidence, and an enthusiasm for others that I usually never have. Of course, over time, all approaches get easier and easier.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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j8snx1

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Hahaha well if you DO see those girls you hit on, just be casual about it you know? So what if they rejected you or thought you were stupid, just say hey, how are you, blah blah blah. Make a new friend if things don't work out, and you probably won't look like an @$$hole.
 

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This is a simple and pretty efficient tip for someone with social anxiety, this should be in the tips section, its better than most of the tips there haha (im talking about the "pretend you´re gay to get girls" tip haha)
 
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