"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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good follow up to the 'so what else do u have going for you?'

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i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Find the one trait that you really liked and ask her more about it.

The point is to really get to her core beliefs and build rapport frrom there by telling her stories that validate that same trait is in you.

i.e Oh you seem to hold family as a very important trait. i remember when I crashed my parents car and I was worried that I was going to be in the big trouble, but they were more concerned with my safety than the car.
 

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pete101 said:
i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
If a girl qualifies herself to you, you can show your interest, because it will NOT be AFC to show interest at this point.

After she gives you the list:

"You know what's wierd, when I first met you, your first impression kinda sucked to be honest :), but now that I have talked to you for a while, I feel that you are really amazing, I'm actually nervous talking to you right now :)"

OR

"Awesome. May be we can hang out :)"

OR

"Put your number in my phone"
 

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her answer was more along the lines of.. 'well i'm smart and a good friend and really sociable and never stab anyone in the back and never cause any drama'

not exactly qualifying herself to me if u see what i mean..

what would be a better follow up if she says the above?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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