"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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good follow up to the 'so what else do u have going for you?'

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i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Find the one trait that you really liked and ask her more about it.

The point is to really get to her core beliefs and build rapport frrom there by telling her stories that validate that same trait is in you.

i.e Oh you seem to hold family as a very important trait. i remember when I crashed my parents car and I was worried that I was going to be in the big trouble, but they were more concerned with my safety than the car.
 

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pete101 said:
i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
If a girl qualifies herself to you, you can show your interest, because it will NOT be AFC to show interest at this point.

After she gives you the list:

"You know what's wierd, when I first met you, your first impression kinda sucked to be honest :), but now that I have talked to you for a while, I feel that you are really amazing, I'm actually nervous talking to you right now :)"

OR

"Awesome. May be we can hang out :)"

OR

"Put your number in my phone"
 

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her answer was more along the lines of.. 'well i'm smart and a good friend and really sociable and never stab anyone in the back and never cause any drama'

not exactly qualifying herself to me if u see what i mean..

what would be a better follow up if she says the above?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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