"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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good follow up to the 'so what else do u have going for you?'

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i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Find the one trait that you really liked and ask her more about it.

The point is to really get to her core beliefs and build rapport frrom there by telling her stories that validate that same trait is in you.

i.e Oh you seem to hold family as a very important trait. i remember when I crashed my parents car and I was worried that I was going to be in the big trouble, but they were more concerned with my safety than the car.
 

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pete101 said:
i asked this girl 'so what else do u have going for you besides your looks?'

she came back with this list of things which qualify herself but focused on her sociability stuff that makes her sound like she'd be a good girlfriend.. but to another girl! LOL

what would be a good follow up question to ask after she's given you this list?
If a girl qualifies herself to you, you can show your interest, because it will NOT be AFC to show interest at this point.

After she gives you the list:

"You know what's wierd, when I first met you, your first impression kinda sucked to be honest :), but now that I have talked to you for a while, I feel that you are really amazing, I'm actually nervous talking to you right now :)"

OR

"Awesome. May be we can hang out :)"

OR

"Put your number in my phone"
 

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her answer was more along the lines of.. 'well i'm smart and a good friend and really sociable and never stab anyone in the back and never cause any drama'

not exactly qualifying herself to me if u see what i mean..

what would be a better follow up if she says the above?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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